(Closed) at the point i just don’t care

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Oh wow…

really bizarre about him having the ring so long and then losing it…  i dont even know how to respond

i hope you figure it all out soon 

Post # 4
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498 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

yah that doesn’t even seem right to me for some reason…you just don’t “lose” a ring! i’m a super suspicious person, so i would be geting my ear to the ground and asking some questions…

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

Um.. That’s really weird that he lost the ring. Are you sure he even bought one? I mean, I know there was a box but that doesn’t mean it came from an e-ring he bought. I don’t get how he could “lose” it. Maybe it was stolen?

That whole thing is really really strange and doesn’t even make sense to me.

Can’t you still get married this July without the proposal though? If you both agreed on a date you’re already engaged, just without a ring.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

Awe well this is definitely a difficult situation. I don’t think you being terribly upset about this doesn’t mean you don’t want to marry him, but this should be wake up call for you, to never leave things that need major planning to him ever again.

This would really get me mad though, especially because he wasn’t upfront about a timeline for the proposal with your potential wedding date so close! Hopefully, its something you guys can work out.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

Im so sorry that this happened but honestly thats all I can say. Besides that I am at a lose for words. I hope you get it all figured out. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

how does he just lose it , unless he was planning to propose to you one day and had it loose in his pocket and then it just didnt work out or something …. I feel like I would have in in a small room with an interrogation light and be asking a million questions .. lost ring , no proof of it ever being purchased… hrmm 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

back in march, (and yes this is so messed up), he let me “play” with the (empty) box, and feel the ring (with my eyes closed). i

you both sound like 12yrs – what adult person allows someone to treat them like this? so you have a venue and a trip to tuscany booked – are they paid for?

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

I guess I just don’t understand putting a deposit down when you aren’t engaged yet. I guess you would think that would light a fire under him to do it since a deposit isn’t cheap!

hmmm…. well even if he finds it, do you have the dress, and all the other necessities? Did you send invitations? It’s getting pretty close!

Do you need the ring to go through with it? I think you two should definately have a talk about what it is you’re going to do, especially with it being soooo close.

 A deposit for a venue isn’t cheap, do you think you’ll just be willing to take the loss for the deposit?

I hope it all works out, i’m feeling really anxious for you!

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

not heartless but i cant understand why a 34 year old woman would think its ok to be messed with that way – its beyond me, i would never allow a man to treat me so childish and yes i can get all giddy and awwhhhhh with love but thats just mean and messing  with you PLUS it still doesnt answer when he was actually planning on giving you the ring when the wedding is suppose to be weeks away. 

do you have your dress, catering, rsvp’s etc organized? you should be arranging final payments this late in the game by now

Post # 14
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Helper bee

Im so sorry this is happening. Has he told you how exactly he thinks he may have lost it? If it was sitting somewhere and he wasn’t touching it then how did it just disappear? Have you asked him with your wedding date approaching if he was going to propose? I have all these questions! It seems kinda odd! However, I would be upset too and I am sure you are thinking a million things. I know you are upset but maybe try talking to him? I don’t know. I wish I had some magically advice. None the less, I hope it works out and I am so sorry!

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