Post # 1
So.. I have given internet dating another try! I can’t believe how much energy and thought dating takes.. But anyway!
I went out with a guy last night, I will call him J. I have been speaking to J for about 3 weeks via text message before we decided to meet. He is not really the kind of guy I would usually go for but after my past dating history I thought why not break the mold!
I didn’t have the highest hopes for last night, which was probably a good thing as my nerves werent off the radar! We went to a local bar and had a few drinks, followed by dinner. We talked and laughed, the conversation flowed really well and he walked me to my car. When we got to my car we stayed chatting for another half hour before we said goodnight. When we said goodnight he gave me a hug and didnt try and kiss me.. At that point I thought that he obviously didn’t like me and was ready to forget about him.
When I got home, my phone went of. J sent a message saying goodnight. I replied saying goodnight back. He replied again asking if I got home ok to which I said I did, let him know I had a nice time and was going to sleep as I was exhausted.
So.. no first kiss, but he messaged me as soon as he got home? I think this means he might of been nervous/a gentleman but my stupid low self esteem is telling me if he really liked me or thought I was pretty he would of tried to kiss me.. Am I crazy?
Post # 3
@ladyluckystars: I would say that he definately likes you! My Fiance didn’t kiss me on our first date either even though we both had a great time. He didn’t kiss me on the 2nd date either so I went in and kissed him! (He now denies this 😉 ) Some guys are more nervous OR even respectful about kissing on first dates. Don’t lose hope! He texted you after seeing you…Id say he was SUPER interested!
Post # 4
I think he is definitely interested. Good luck and have fun!
Post # 5
No. You’re not crazy you’re just dating!
Post # 6
I would definitely say he likes you. He’s probably just trying to be a gentleman!
Post # 7
My SO didn’t kiss me on the first date, either. Or the second. He’s a complete gentleman and we hit it off fantastically.
I don’t think you have anything to worry about! Good luck!
Post # 8
I think he likes you but was being a gentleman. Good Luck!
Post # 9
*Tries not to get hopes up*
I really hate dating! I left my phone at home so I wouldnt keep checking it!
Post # 10
oh my god are you being serious? you really think he doesn’t like you? trust me, you’ll know when a guy doesn’t like you…because he won’t call or text you.
this guy really enjoyed your date and wants to do things right (i.e. not come on too strong and scare you away). let it happen naturally and let the suspsense of the first kiss build up. it’s fun.
ps- i met my husband on match.com yea we kissed the first night but that’s because i just asked him if he would like to kiss at the end of the night. i had a few drinks in me and thought, ‘screw it’. but i decided to ask politely rather than attack him like a desperate drunk girl.
he loved it that i asked and said it was the funniest thing a girl has ever asked him on a date. “do you want to make out?” haha
Post # 11
@ladyluckystars: he totally likes you. He is just a gentleman. Darling Husband and I dated for over a month before he finally kissed me 😉 It took me just asking him if he liked me for me to find out. After a few weeks of dating and no kissing I thought maybe we were just hanging out as friends so I needed clarification 🙂 It was SOOO WORTH THE WAIT! Maybe this guy will be worth it too! good luck honey!
Post # 12
He likes you and was just being a gentleman. My SO and I didn’t kiss until our third date! That was five years ago..
Post # 13
Thanks for all the advice ladies.. it is SO hard not to overthink things and get carried away!
In case I havent made it clear, I HATE HATE HATE dating.. I just wish people were more straight forward.. “Hey, I like you, you like me.. lets hang out!” But no, there are rules, and games and people trying not to come off too needy or clingy.. Argh!
He messaged me yesterday and we had a bit of back and forth. I said that last night was fun, and he said that he thought it was too. So I asked if he wanted to do it again sometime and he said “Do it again…. Hrmmm… Might leave you in suspense with this one 😉 Goodnight!”.
WHO SAYS THAT! I get it.. he is one of those joke around kind of guys, he is cheeky and likes to stir me up.. and the fact that he has been messaging me as soon as he can leads me to believe he likes me but dude, seriously? I put myself out there and thats what I get. Thankfully drunk me resisted the urge to tell him where he could shove it!
Post # 14
Maybe he wants to be the “date initiator?” Either way, I wouldn’t message him again. Let him chase you a bit.
Post # 15
Oh my god so exciting….as much as dating sucks you do get to missing the unknown a bit when you know where your next 10000 kisses, i love you’s, and everything elses are coming from!!!
I would say he’s totally interested but trying not to jump the gun. He probably doesn’t want to seem too interested if he’s not sure of your level of interest. Just do yourself a favour and DON’T watch the “He’s just not that into you” Sex and the City episode – i watched that show obsessively when i started out with my fiance and started finding signals or lack of signals in EVERYTHING!! It got to driving me crazy and it was all in my head!
Post # 16
I really do think he is interested, actually I think he is as keen as mustard. I’ve made it known i’d be willing to see him again, the ball is in his court now!