Post # 1
Regular bee here, going anon though
I’m at the point where really I just want to marry Fiance and go on the honeymoon. We’re 4 months out to the wedding and things are just getting to be too much between the wedding and life, my biggest problem being a few members of my bridal party.
I have a group of friends ive been friends with since grade school and out of the 5 of us, 3 aren’t coming to my bachelorette party (which is nothing like Vegas or includes airfare)…and the reason they aren’t coming is bc they feel I’ve been too absent and are saying they don’t have the funds to go….but they have done everything this year from buying season tickets to sports games, went on trips, got pets, you name it… I am the queen of understanding when funds are low, but I would and have done everything possible when it comes/came to their weddings and its just hard to be understanding when Fiance and I have had a long engagement and seeing them spend frivolously throughout this years and years past.
I’ve been absent bc I’ve moved back with my parents for the time being, which is an hour south of this group, Fiance and I are getting married in 4 months and we dont live together yet and live 40 mins from one another, so all the wedding stuff tends to get done on the weekends bc its the only time we get to see each other, I have almost a 2 hour commute to and from work, Fiance and I are closing on a house at the end of the month after having 2 houses fall through and looking for a year….I’m trying to make myself more available, but at the moment its just getting harder and harder.
I’m just done…totally done…I literally can’t think about this friendship thing either without crying…sorry just needed to vent..I need this wedding to be here, I need to be in this house, I need my honeymoon so I can just be with my Fiance who I love so much and just forget about all the crap in between,
Feel free to vent about things too!
Post # 3
@Goinganon: I feel ya!! The wedding is 6 weeks away and its just a drama fest!! Wouldnt mind if it was a big wedding but its tiny, not even got a bridal party or best man etc. Parents keep butting in trying to persuade us to do this or that and FI’s sister has said shes not coming to the wedding because she hates her mum, so Future Mother-In-Law is getting on at us to get his sister to come so they can make up even though they havnt spoken in 7 years!! Its all a mess and i just want it to end so we can get on with our lives!!
Post # 4
I am pretty happy that I don’t have to deal with all the drama. Our problem is that we have barely planned anything and the wedding is in late July. In the area where we’re getting married, there are very few options and they’re all kind of crappy and expensive.
I’m over it, too!!
Post # 5
I 100% feel you! the drama that has happened (we also had a long engagement–and are 5 weeks to our wedding now) is just RIDICULOUS!
I too do not understand how people can’t figure out that YES, you will have to put money out for wedding stuff. I REALLY don’t expect much from people, and my bachelorette party is starting at a pub, heading to 3 different bars after that….you can choose to spend money or not spend money…..and there are people who are having issues cause they don’t have money for it :S
Then there’s my FI’s sister…..she lives in a big expensive house, spent THOUSANDS going to florida and disney world with her kids (they went last year as well) and is pleading poverty right now….I DO believe that YES, they are having money issues (with over spending….on the trip to florida she bought a TONNE of coach purses as well)….BUT, I found it bizarre that she made a HUGE deal about buying us a GREAT gift for our wedding shower and we got a $40 gift card from her…again, I DO NOT EXPECT ANYTHING from people, but find it odd that someone would make such a HUGE deal about buying a great gift and then gave us that….and then her kids are in the wedding and she balked at having to get them outfits for it….I just bought them shirts for it and it cost $30 for both….REALLY???
So I get you….I totally get you…I’m really over the wedding already….but, I’m sure all of our days are going to be AMAZING! Just hang in there!