(Closed) At what age did you find relgion/god?

posted 6 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
1123 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I had a LOT of confusion and questions and disagreements for years. I didn’t go back to the church until the last year. I didn’t want a church that condemned people, judged anyone, I didn’t want a church that thought they were better than anyone else and figured the church was full of hypocrites. And sadly that is the case for many churchs

But I ended up trying church after church after church until I finally found one that admits we are ALL sinners, we ALL do bad things, NO ONE is perfect. Instead of damning people, we pray for people and that they will be forgiven even if they do not seek forgiveness. We pray that they find their way, but I don’t try to push my beliefs on them. However I don’t stand down when my faith is being questioned or targeted either.

But I still don’t agree with everything my church teaches. So I study the bible, I ask questions and I don’t let people tell me what to believe. There are too many false christians teaching the wrong thing.

No one is perfect therefor no church is perfect, we just have to accept it for its flaws like we pray God will do for us. But we don’t expect God to forgive us if we constantly go against his commandments, so I don’t believe we should accept a church that is completely against what we believe (if that makes sense, like I said I’m new getting back into it)

Post # 4
2167 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@alishaloo:  I only truly found my Higher Power in the last year and half when I came to a point where I HAD to or I was just not going to make it anymore here on Earth. I’m 30 years old. 

Post # 5
4047 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I “found” God around the age of 12. I was a devout Christian (I guess I considered myself non-denominational) and very active in the Church until age 18. During that time I was a pretty fervent believer and was active in a lot of movements that meant a great deal to me… yet looking back I can remember several lingering doubts I always had in my mind – logical flaws with religion/faith that did not sit well with me. I shoved those questions down because I wanted the comfort of my faith.

When I turned 18 and moved to a new town, I tried to find another good church to attend, but I never got heavily plugged in anywhere. I never felt like I fit. I still kept up my faith for a time, but slowly my doubts continued to grow, especially as I began to study history more in depth and realized the obvious historical flaws within the Bible.

Then there was a huge blow up that happened and caused me to repent for my doubts and turn back to God. I spent hours and hours in a prayer room, and it held absolutely no power. I was desperate though. I was the most willing follower. Yet, I couldn’t force myself to believe even though every bit of me wanted to believe. There is a scripture somewhere that speaks of faith and belief being a gift from God, and that’s what I prayed for because I clearly didn’t have it.

At the end of that — still nothing. I felt no increased belief. I kept at it for another couple months, but nothing ever came to fruition. The only thing I could come up with were more arguments AGAINST God. And he clearly never intervened to bestow any sort of belief.

So I became an atheist and I have never looked back. In fact, I am far happier now than I ever was as a Christian. It was like a huge weight being lifted (ironically many believers use the same language when they describe becoming Christians).

Like you, I couldn’t stand being in the grey area – I could not simply be in the middle and sort of believe but not really know what to believe. I had to make a choice, and once I did it was so good.

I’m not saying you should drop faith altogether and become an atheist, OP, but don’t be afriad to do some digging and figure out what sits well with you and what doesn’t even if it’s an unpopular choice.

Post # 6
1185 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I know for a fact that exmormon.org is a very valuable resource to someone who is looking for support and new ways of thinking.

Post # 7
526 posts
Busy bee

If you want to attend a church that is socially liberal, I recommend an ELCA Lutheran or Episcopal church.  Stay away from evangelical Christians.  They don’t even think that LDS is a sect of ChristianitY.  🙂

I was raised fundamental Baptist.  It really did a number on me.  I didn’t go to church at all from 18-23.  I hated God and everything Christianity stood for.  My husband didn’t care if we went to church or not.  He was raised evangelical Christian – his dad is a pastor.  But he went to a fundie school from K-12, so they really messed him up too.

But, when I was 23, I was really missing the community that church provides, so Darling Husband and I started attending a Lutheran church.  It has really helped us heal from our past, and I definitely have a better relationship with God now.  We are investigating whether we want to join the Catholic church or stay Lutheran.

Good luck with your journey, and I definitely urge you to consider the more liberal churches.  

Post # 8
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Former LDS bride over here! I converted to Mormon-ism when I was 14, and was extremely involved until I went to college!

I couldn’t “keep pure”, though. There was just too much!

On the inside, I still feel LDS. I think I always will!

But I have converted to Lutheranism to get married in FI’s church. Our children will be raised Lutheran, too!

Post # 9
1805 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I was raised Christian then as a teenager I was confused then I was totally anti religion for a few years but around 22 I somehow became more intune with my beliefs.. I think you should explore, there’s no right or wrong belief 

Post # 10
9115 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I was born and raised a good devout Catholic.

When I was 11, I lost my faith. This was something I chose due to the inability of important questions to be answered, and because I didn’t agree with a lot of what the Catholics do.

Post # 11
847 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

@alishaloo:  I never found god and I’m quite happy to live the truth as an atheist. 

Post # 12
7673 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I went from atheist/agnostic to Christian at age 18. Since then there has been a lot of what I’d call “maturing” in my faith; especially from about age 30 or so. I no longer hold to some of the church’s stricter teachings, and I think they’re not supported by the Bible either.

At the risk of proseletysing, I’ll say there is a lot more flexibility in the older protestant churches (Episcopalian, Baptist, Lutheran, Methodist etc). Protestantism encourages invididual study and belief, though in some of the more fundamentalist churches that theory disappears (which I don’t think is a good thing).

Post # 13
1497 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I was raised in church, found God at 15, and let religion go at 23. I believe in God (and I do love him/her), but I do not like religious institutions.

Post # 14
424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I was raised Catholic.. went to Catholic school K – 8, too.  Lost faith when I went away to college freshmen year.  Found faith sophomore year after a philosophy class.  It built up until I was 23 and moved out of my parent’s house.  It’s still pretty central to my life.

Post # 15
108 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@alishaloo:  I grew up LDS, too. I come from a long line of Mormons, all the way back to Nauvoo. That had some pressure itself as well.

I look back and don’t see a point in time even in my childhood that I really believed in it. I put up with it. I knew I didn’t believe in LDS teachings by 13. After going to the temple and doing baptisms by proxy, I didn’t feel anything. No holy ghost, nada. I felt dirty for the baptisms by proxy, I felt bad about it. That’s when it hit me that I didn’t believe in the church. I faked it until I was 16, but when I was 14 we moved to Utah and our chapel was right across the street from our house so I would go to sacrament meeting, leave at the end of that in the middle of the commotion before Sunday School/Primary and go home.

When I went inactive, it was uneventful telling my parents. I told my dad when he came in to wake me up because I was running late for church that I wasn’t going anymore, I couldn’t. He told me okay, came and gave me a kiss on my forehead, told me I can always come back to church if I decide to and that was it. I’m almost 27 and I haven’t been back.

I had my name removed from church membership records (which took two attempts, first time I was ignored so I had to threaten legal action and going to the media to get them to do it, that’s not uncommon to have to do though) last September and they tried to give me the runaround, I just let them do their thing, and I finally got my letter stating my name had been removed from membership records, my baptismal covenant was cancelled, my sealing to my parents was void, and my membership ID number was no longer valid. And a little mesage about how I can still go through a long repentance process and be rebaptized if I decide. LOL.

I wouldn’t use the word “sin” personally, but I do think it’s irresponsible and in a way immoral to not examine your beliefs no matter what they are, from time to time. I know how very taboo it is to question ANYTHING in Mormonism. I know any  good, non-questioning member or the church itself would call this blog anti-Mormon propaganda, but it’s actually a blog run by women who are active LDS women that are taking issue with the cultural problems with the church and women and how women are viewed, the programs for women aren’t given as large of budgets and a priesthood leader has to oversee the leader of the program (RS leader, YW leader, etc.), things like that. It also touches on some other things. It might help you out and if you decide to stay in the LDS church, maybe not feel so alone with your personal beliefs. 🙂 It’s feministmormonhousewives.org

Don’t let members shame you or feel like it’s your fault for having questions. Questioning is good, if we as humans didn’t question anything, we wouldn’t be where we are today with technology, science, medicine, etc. and not to mention, if Joseph Smith hadn’t questioned what religion to join, the LDS church would not exist for you to question. Following without questioning is honestly something I find to be sad and a huge problem with our society right now.

And the age I found religion was never. ;P I found a realization that there is no god, we’re here now and responsible now for what we do and what we don’t do to help others who need us between 13 and 16 years old, it was something that developed. I identify as a secular humanist.

Now I’m going to wait for some fallout for my comment, lol. 

Post # 16
930 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I was raised Catholic.  I taught religious ed for a few years in my young adult years and volunteered many hours working/directing church retreats.  

Then I moved away from home for work, and got out of the bubble I grew up in. I really starting questioning a lot about the church (not the Christian teachings, but the social views of the church, the child molester priests, issues with women’s role in the church and the heirarchy of the church).  It took a coupls of years of really questioning who I am and what I believe.  I am 27 years old.

I have recently decided that I will be joining the ELCA Lutheran church after we get married. (Happens to be FI’s church, and his Dad is a pastor).  I know this is the right move for me, and it will happen. BUT, I’m still concerned at how some of my friends & family will react, and i have a feeling it will hurt some of those relationships.  But, I need tos tick true to my beliefs!  Thankfully the two religions are fairly close, and the only real differences in them are the things I have issues with.  Also, the ELCA church is fairly accepting of LGBT (most churches, not all).  The congregation we are joining will even do commitment ceremonies, and does not preach that homosexuality is a sin.  

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