Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
My 14 year old step daughter got her naval pierced yesterday. I’m not happy about it at all. I think that a child should AT LEAST be 16 to get their naval pierced and even that is debatable with me. I remember wanting my naval pierced in high school and I had to wait until I turned 18. I do not have ill feelings towards my parents for making me wait, in fact I think it made me appreciate my piercing even more. I’m now 32 and still wear my naval ring.
So my FI knew my feelings about the piercing, but because step daughters mom said it was OK to get it done, my FI took her. I came home after work already mad about it but didn’t take anything out on the kids I just sort of fumed inside my own head about. Well step daughter started acting really immature, running around the house (which is against our rules), mouthing off, not listening, and then told me to make her dinner because I was “the mom of the house” even though we were making something different than what she was wanting me to make.
I looked at her and said “If your old enough to get a body piercing, your old enough to make your own dinner since what we are having isn’t good enough for you.” I basically feel like my FI gave me the middle finger yesterday when he specifically knew how I felt about young girls getting their navals pierced (or any other body part other than ears). I like to think I’m a cool mom, I have tattoos, I have body piercings etc but I just think there is an age when its appropriate.
What do you bees think? How old would you let your daughter be to get her naval pierced?
Post # 3
@NurseMandie: I did it at 15 with my parents permission. I am none the worse for it.
Post # 4
I was 18 when I got mine. I will not give my daughter permission to get a piercing so she will have to wait until she is legally of age.
I also think your fiance should have asked his ex to take their daughter so this would not have an effect on your relationship.
Post # 5
i was 18 and in the military before i got mine. but i did get a tattoo at 16 with my moms permission because she wouldnt let me get my tongue pierced (thank god) what i dont get is why navel piercings are still popular. lol
Post # 6
For my DD’s they will have to be 18 to get anything pierced or tattooed. I had to be 18 and honestly, if I would have gotten what I wanted when I was 16 I would be getting lots of cover ups done. lol My parents were especially hard core about naval piercings. That was a nono in our house till after you were 18 and out of the house.
Post # 7
18, and I would not consider anything lower than 16.
ETA: I have 1 tattoo and will get another next week, but I don’t feel hypocritical at all. It’s an adult decision IMO
Post # 8
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
I had a friend in high school who got hers pierced, so she had to have been at least 14. It ended up getting infected a lot even though she took good care of it. That really deterred me from wanting one.
I think this is a really subjective question. You have to go with what you’re comfortable with. I’m sorry that your fiance isn’t on the same page as you when it comes to parenting. That seems like the bigger issue here than her age.
Post # 9
I got mine done when I was 16 and at 17 I had to have emergency surgery so they took it out and I never put the silly thing back in again LOL what a waste
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
@MrsPanda99: I don’t think that she’ll be a convict or anything because of it. I guess what really makes me mad too is that both FI and I have the same feelings that 14 is too young for a naval piercing. Yet because her mom said “OK” my FI took her. He says “Well she was going to get it done anyway”. I understand that, but in that case step daughter should have either A) paid for it herself or B) waited until she was at her mom’s this weekend to have it done. She also turns 15 in 3 months, so would waiting another year really have killed her?
Post # 11
@MrsPanda99: same here. The nice thing about piercings is that you can take them out and let the holes close if needed. Much less permanent than a tattoo or a pregnancy or a drug problem when it comes to teenage rebellion (though is it really rebellion if your dad and grandpa take you to get it done??)
Post # 12
I was 16. I find 14 a bit young too but honestly, it’s not that big of a deal. I’d say the bigger issue would be if she did it on her own, without parental permission or did it defiantly.. or in some skeezy place. Piercings can be taken out and heal over with usually minimal scaring. I’d be more upset if she got a tattoo or something that you can’t really get rid of.
Post # 13
Personally, I think 14 is okay with parental consent.
Since her biological Mom and your FI(her dad) both were fine with it, I think you need to let it go. You may not agree with it and are free to give them your opinion but unfortunately you dont get the final say.
How she behaves in your house, is def. your territory and FI and yourself need to sort that out – teenagers rebel :S
Just be thankful it’s a normal piercing for a teenager and not a nipple piercing or tattoo, which is permanent. =)
*nothing against tats or piercings(I have them), just in reference to Op’s Step-daughter.
Post # 14
I got mine pierced at 14 but I dread the thought of my own daughter doing the same! I guess out of all the things she can do this isn’t too bad.
Post # 15
I voted 15. I think that this is an issue between your fiance, his daughter, and his mom and if they both allowed it you have to suck it up.
Post # 16
I did it at the age of 16 – my mom wasn’t thrilled but she came with me to make sure it was a safe and nice/clean place.
I still have it and don’t regret it. I’m in my 30s now.