Post # 1
So it’s common knowledge that after a certain age (somewhere around 40 I think) your risk of complications increases. Do you plan to stop at a recommended age or continue until you get pregnant regardless of what your doctor suggests? I’m curious because I have a friend who is in her mid-30’s and she and her husband are just now first starting. I know they want more than one child. To the Bees who are TTC, what are your plans?
Post # 3
I started at 30.5 and said I would stop trying at 35… BUT as heartbreaking as this last year has been I will probably keep going until around 40-41 before I stopped trying and went back on BC. All I want is to be a mum hopefully in 10 yrs of TTC something will happen…
Post # 4
@Aquaria: I think it’s younger than 40. I’ve always heard 35. If I was pregnant and going to deliver before 35, that would be it for us. Bora Bora, here we come!
Post # 5
Age 39/40. Hopefully I get pregrnant way before then especially since my husband wants two kids.
Post # 6
I think, for me, this would be one of those situations where I wouldn’t know what I would do until I was in the situation to have to decide. I’d like to be done having kids by the time I’m 35 (turning 30 tomorrow!)…but I suspect that if I was unsuccessful getting pregnant I would continue trying until 40.
Post # 7
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Darling Husband and I just had our first child two weeks ago and even though we would like 3 total I can honestly say I probably wouldn’t try much longer than 30-35. This goes for me personally and I wouldn’t bat an eyelash at anyone who wanted to try much longer, I just know how exhausted I am right now with sleepless nights and I can’t imagine it getting any easier as I get older. I will admit i don’t take the best care of myself so that plays a big part and I’m more than sure there are those much older than I with twice as much energy!
Post # 8
Well, I had always wanted to have a baby. However, I didn’t marry until I was 47, so it was impossible prior to that point. Because of my age and a number of other factors, we have never formally done anything extraordinary to TTC. However, we have always been NTTP.
Post # 9
@Aquaria: 27 now and expecting in March so will probably be done having children by 35, but I would definitely conceive up until 45 or so if the situation warranted it. Not everyone finds their husband early in life. My cousin got married and had her first baby in her mid 40s With no issues.
Post # 10
i am starting at 32.
i have a friend who got pregnant for the first time at 41 and another friend who just started trying at 39.
Post # 11
I would stop probably in my early 40s. Not because I’m worried about birth defects (even in older moms they are still *very* rare), but because I don’t want to be raising high schoolers at the same time I’m preparing to retire.
I’m 30 now and don’t plan on TTC for at least a few years. I expect I’ll have my children (provided that I can have them) in my mid-to-late 30s. Which means with any luck that I’ll have an empty house before I’m 60. 😀
Post # 12
I would stop trying only if I decided I no longer wanted a child. A risk of complications is just that — a risk. If you are in good health, and don’t have a history of birth defects there is little reason for your doctor to advise you to avoid conceiving on account of age. Most of the hysteria around women’s reproduction and age has little basis in scientific data. A lot of it is simply fear-mongering.
We probably won’t TTC until I am in my mid-30s or so. It’s hard to do so sooner in my field of work. We will stop when we decide our family is complete.
Post # 13
I didn’t meet Darling Husband until a month before I turned 36. We got married when I was 38 and started TTC (a few months before the wedding even). I’m 39 now and 11 weeks pregnant.
Yes, if you are in the situation, have kids earlier than I am. But that doesn’t work for everyone. I don’t think you can make that decision until you are in that moment.
Post # 14
I’m in my mid-thirties and we will be TTC in the fall. It’s fairly common in this area for most women to start trying in their mid-thirties. The age factor never bothered me one bit.
I do have a 10 year old and had honestly been fine with a “1 and done” baby until my Darling Husband got baby fever hardcore in the last year or two. I have secondary infertility so we presume it will take quite a while before we are blessed with another. I have no issues continuing to try as long as my body will let me. Heck, my mom had her last baby in her late forties. Had I not given her a grandbaby, she said she would have kept trying for more!
Post # 15
It’s hard to say without knowing what your circumstances are. I’d probably stop sometime around 38-40 but I would probably stop for sure after 40. I don’t want to have teenage children when I’m ready to retire and I have always felt I could be happy without children so that’s really the only reason (not because I’m scared of complications, which are still pretty rare).
Since I’m pregnant now, our first will be born a few months before I turn 30. So I will definitely be done before 40, hopefully somewhere around 35 I will be done.
If I hadn’t met Darling Husband or had gotten married at 35 I definitely would have tried at 35!
Post # 16
It’s really hard to say unless you are in the situation. I think many women have a cutoff age in their head before they start TTC, but when it becomes real and if it takes longer than they expect to get pg, it’s a different story. I started TTC at 31 and have been trying for #1 for 1.5 years. I would have loved to have 2 kids by the time I was 35, but that’s not looking likely at this point. I’ll reassess when I’m in my late 30s.