(Closed) At what age would you stop TTC?

posted 8 years ago in TTC
Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

If I had no babies, I would try longer maybe til 45. 

 

Post # 33
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Aquaria:  Well I am 40 and we are trying for # 2.  My grandmother had my dad at the age of 47 so there is that…

Post # 34
Bee
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza

In an ideal world I like to be done by 35, but I’m 28 and we haven’t started TTC yet. We want 2-3 kids, not sure about how many years we want between them or if we’ll have trouble conceiving, so I don’t know. We’d love to be done by the time I turn 35, but if it takes a few more years so be it. I don’t think I would want to try past 40, but that’s 28 year old, childless me saying that. Who knows how I’ll feel about it in another 10 years…

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

In my current relationship, I would stop at 35 because my husband is 14 yeards older than me.  However, if things were different and my partner was my age, I would say maybe 40 or 45.  As long as I felt good and had the energy to do it (and desire of course) I would go for it.  I am 29 now though and pregnant with #2 (our last) so it’s all hypothetical.

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Aquaria:  40 would be my absolute cut-off and ideally I would like to be done having kids by 35-36. Im 30 now and we’re due in July with #1 and we potentially would like a total of 2, possibly 3. It’s not just the potential complications but even the logistics of having kids in college when you are trying to save for your retirement or thinking about retirement. Financially, it starts to get tricky.

Post # 37
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Honestly, I would probably stop having kids at 30. Anything after that is too old for me. I want to be young enough to enjoy being with my children during their young years and I want to be child-free by the time I plan on retiring in my mid 50’s.

 

But if I don’t have any children by the time i’m 30 and really desparte to have one, I might try until I was 32. Or just adopt. But if I already had at least 1 kid I would stop at 30.

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I would stop trying at 40, but realistically I don’t think I’d even get there.  DH and I are about to start trying, and we’ll be 28.  We want two, and if we were trying for over a year or two with no luck, we’d start looking into adoption (we’ve agreed that we won’t do much in the way of fertility treatments – if we needed IVF or something like that to conceive, we would rather adopt).

Post # 39
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m done before 30 and that was always my goal. I have no desire to be an older parent, we will be empty nesters by 45 and that has always been the plan. 

Post # 40
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m almost 26 and pregnant with our first. Ideally, I’d like to be done having children by 30-32, mainly for financial reasons and my own health than any fear of risk factors. If we stick to that timeline, our mortgage will be paid off and the kids should be out of the house by 54. 

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@SaltedCaramel:  Hey my mom had my brother & I at the same ages as you and your brother! I thought it was pretty unusual especially since it was back in the 80s 🙂 Heredity is on our side for conceiving relatively late, but I don’t want to get a false sense of security that I’m going to be able to conceive at 41 too.

So I can’t give a hard and fast cutoff, we’ll just have to see what happens! 

Post # 42
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I met my husband right after I turned 43.  He does not have any children, but we mutually decided to take TTC off the table because of both our ages (we are the same age).  I am especially concerned with birth defects.  I don’t want to risk it, as I neither desire to raise a child with disabiities nor go through a late termination.

Post # 43
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2002

I’m 35 and pregnant.  My risk of having a child with a trisomy abnormality is only a half of one percent.  So, being done by 35 shouldn’t be as hard pressed as it is being presented.  I had my first at 25, and I will be 36 when this one is born.  I’m definitely done after this one, not because of my age but four kids are my personal limit.  

Post # 44
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I had #1 at 30 and if we decide to have another I’d like it to be within the next couple of years (but not right now!) because I’d want the kids to be close in age.

If I didn’t have a child and knew I wanted to be a mom, I don’t know what my cutoff would be.  I think it’s really easy for a childfree person with no known fertility issues to say they want to be done by 35 (or whenever), but what if you had trouble TTC or hadn’t met your husband until later in life?

Post # 45
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

When I no longer want any more children, no set age. There is such fear about TTC complications past a “certain age”, I blame it on societal pressures and media hype.

Post # 46
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I am a young bride, will be 22 when I get married. I think we’ll start when I am like 26-27 and will stop maybe at 35 I think!

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