Post # 77
@gpiglet: Glad to help! Yes, your risks are still relatively low at 35 (about 0.5%). I don’t remember 36 off the top of my head, but it’s still less than 1%. The way some people talk you’d think the risk was 50% or higher!
Great question about paternal age. Remember when I said that men are constanly making new sperm? For this reaon, older men’s sperm aren’t any more likely than younger men’s sperm to have the wrong number of chromosomes. So paternal age doesn’t affec the risk for aneuploidy.
There are some somewhat sketchy connections to increased riks for some very rare disorders when dads are older. But these are incredibly rare conditions (they have to do with genes that turn on selectivelly when inherited from the correct parent). So even with an increased risk, your risks are still well under 0.1%.
So, practically speaking, paternal age is not expected to put a child at increased risk for problems. Guys have all the luck!
All that being said, the primary things guys have to worry about is sperm number and motility. I know there are many things that can affect those numbers (to some degree) and I’m not sure if age is one of them. But I would think your husband’s health would matter more than his age, in that regard.
Post # 78
I’d like to have all my kids no later than 30. I want to be a young mom and dont want to deal with problems/anxieties that come with having a baby later in life.
Post # 79
Thank you for explaining to me..
When you mentioned the dad’s health is a factor of increasing the risk, what kind of health concern……….as my Fiance is very unhealthy, he smoke and drink ….. not saying he is an acholoic but he drink wine and beer on a regular basis. And he has some rare condition on his kidney (not critical but something to do with the membrance) that nobody know what is the caus and trigger that he need to be on pills forever to keep the protein level low??
so being a smoker and drink regularly, would that kick in as well? If yes, I will try my best to talk him out of smoking……….
Post # 80
@gpiglet: First of all, let me warn your that we are stepping out of my area of expertise. But I did a quick google search and found this from the CDC
Their page seems to say that mild/moderate drinking is okay, but heavy drinking and smoking may negatively impact sperm number/motility. But I will say that the CDC almost always errs on the side of caution in these kinds of issues, so the changes assocaited with heavy drinking/smoking, may be relatively small. I haven’t read the primary literature, so I’m really not sure. But cutting back or quitting smoking is a good idea for so many other reasons, maybe this could be a good motivator for your guy?
Post # 81
ai… it will be a long journey to convince him to quit smoking. He is not big into kids but he is very good with kids (very ironic right?) He said ever since he was 7, he has been surrounded by kids non-stop because he grow up in a huge family…. his sisters and brother non-stop popping kids and he has been helping. We are still in the discussion rather we want a kid or not…we have concluded that no matter what, we do not want one in the next 1-2 years…
few weeks ago, I told him that he may want to start quitting now because by the time we TTC, he has to quit smoking. He laughed and said then we just won’t have kid…..
Post # 82
@gpiglet: Ouch! They do say they’re really addictive, so I guess they’re right! But I’ve known plenty of men that smoke and have no problems with fertility, so it’s not the end of the world.
Post # 83
@Aquaria: What do you mean by stop trying? When DH and I started dating, we never used birth control but we weren’t trying. I was 46 and felt I was safe from pregnancy. I don’t know what I would do if I became pregnant with a healthy pregnancy at this point.
Post # 84
I don’t have a cut-off point. In my area most people have kids later so I wouldn’t stand out.
Post # 85
My mom had me when she was 22 and I loved having a “young” mom. She was always in the loop of things and could relate/understand me in ways my friend’s moms couldn’t. It was really awesome. Now that I’m having kids she will be able to be an active and “young” grandmother who will most likely get to see them grow up.My grandma also had kids in her younger years so she was that kind of grandma for me. She and I have such a fun and awesome relationship. She is still active and enjoying life. I want that for my kids and I want to be that kind of grandma too.
We don’t have fertility issues but are choosing to adopt. This will be our first child and we are considered to be “paper pregnant” at the moment. I’m 26 and hubs is 27.
After we adopt our first then we might TTC biologically or might just decide to adopt again. 30 is my cutoff for babies in general. After 30 we will only consider adopting an older child.
For me being a mother is a calling I take to heart and will pour myself into, however, there is more to my identity than just being a mom. There is still a whole lot for me to do and see. Being 40 and expecting is totally acceptable, but it just doesn’t line up with what I want from life.
Post # 86
I don’t plan on having children, but if we decided to, I would not TTC after 35. This is partially because of risks, but also because I’m not interested in raising children while in my late 40’s and 50’s.