(Closed) At what anniversary should you have a vow renewal?

posted 7 years ago in Vow Renewals
  • poll: At what anniversary should you have a vow renewal?

    1 year

    5 years

    10+ years

    Whenever the heck I want!

  • Post # 2
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Whenever is best for you and your husband.

    Post # 3
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    Bumble bee

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    Alwaysabride:  I’m not into vow renewals. I just can’t see myself making people come to what is basically another wedding. It seems like a cry for attention sometimes, but to each their own. I respect other people’s choices and in some instances I think it can be sweet ( like the smaller ones you mentioned), but for me it seems pointless. 

    Post # 4
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    Bee Keeper

    I think the five counts are ideal if you expect an audience. If its private, whatever floats your boat.

    Post # 5
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    As often as you want- just keep it private unless it’s really an accomplishment like 25 or 50 years.

    I am tired of getting invited to a 2 , 3 or 7 year vow renewals.  It seems like a blatant call for gifts.

    Post # 6
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think it is sweet at any year.  It sounds like they kept it private.  That is what I would do.  A lot of resorts offer it free.  I would just go on a private anniversary trip.

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    Whatever you want. I agree with keeping them private If you’re going to though. Kind of silly to invite a bunch of people to a vow renewal unless it’s 50 year anniversary or something similar.

    i doubt my husband and I will ever do them. Been there, done that. We can say sweet things to each other all the time. Don’t need to go and get an officiant and make it fancy.

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee

    I personally probably wouldn’t do one until we reached a huge milestone (like 25 or 50 years). Not for gifts, but just to see the family that we created and their children all in one and celebrate everything and everyone that came from Fiance and I’s love. Okay, the cheese is over now. 😉

    Post # 9
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    Helper bee

    Really there is no right or wrong answer but to me it seems to make more sense after 10+ years.  My brother did a vow renewal at 5 years, and she had lost a lot of weight so she even had to get a new dress, they spent so much on pictures, which is fine if they have the money but they really didn’t ans went into debt for it.

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee

    I have been invited to a 1 year vow renewal, so the couple can do things that they weren’t able to do at their wedding last year. It’s not even on their actual wedding date. Ridiculous and huge waste of money IMO. Personally I think 10 or 20 years is a good milestone 

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    Post # 11
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    Bee Keeper

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    Alwaysabride:  I voted ‘whenever you want’.

    My OH and I have been through hell with his mother over the past year or so. We’ve recently cut contact and our starting a ‘new phase’ in our lives, and I’m considering a vow renewal at some point (even though we’ve only been married 7 months) to mark it. She caused SO many problems and so much stress throughout our whole engagement, we had to have her there on the day, and she has come close to splittung us up on several occasions. So I like the idea of just the two of us renewing our vows somewhere quiet and kind of saying ‘here’s to the next chapter!’. 

    Basically, I can totally see people wanting to do it after a fairly short time because of major life events/troubles, to kind of mark a fresh start and reaffirm your relationship.

    Otherwise, I quite like the idea of having one after a round number, maybe 10 years. Again though, I would want it to be just the two of us, with minimal fuss; just somewhere on a beach, dressed casually.

    Post # 12
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    My husband and I plan to have a 10 year vow renewel. We basically want to set up a big family vacation somewhere tropical and just have the renewel one of the days we’re there. There won’t be any gifts or “reception” or anything like that. Just a “ceremony” with the family and then dinner and drinks at the house we’ve rented. I do plan to get a dress (most likely a pink one that I wanted but didn’t get because it wasn’t traditional enough for the wedding) and I want to hire a pro photgrapher because we literally got like 10 pictures of just my husband and I from the wedding and out of those 10, I like about 4.

    Post # 13
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    If you’re keeping it private, then whenever you want. If you’re inviting other people, then stick with the mig miles times like 10 or 25 years and only do one. When they say “you only get one day” they do not mean you get that same day every year!

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

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    Alwaysabride:  If it’s private, then it doesn’t matter. But if you’re inviting people to attend, then the 25 yr milestones are important enough for me to want to come.

    However, I hear about a lot of bees on here having 1 yr renewals to make up for bad pictures or horrible wedding day experiences, which I feel iffy about unless I think it was truly a disaster (i.e. all guests left immediately after their meal; physical fights and big shouting matches at the wedding; natural disasters; etc.).

    But even if that was the case, I personally would just have a private renewal and throw an informal anniversary party or dinner at some point and get pictures of my friends and family then. I don’t think having 1 yr renewals is very common outside of WB though.

    Post # 15
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I’d probably eye roll if it was less than 10 but if you’re keeping it private, do it whenever! 

    Personally speaking, I wouldn’t feel the need to do something like that until at least 10 years and even then, I’m not too sure if its necessary. I wouldn’t do the whole mock-wedding and there would be absolutely no gifts. 

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