(Closed) At what point in the planning process did it become "real" for you?

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: When did it hit you?
    The moment they proposed. : (0 votes)
    Booking the venue/caterer/other vendor : (8 votes)
    16 %
    Buying the dress. : (12 votes)
    24 %
    The day of the wedding. : (6 votes)
    12 %
    It still doesn't feel real and I'm married already. : (5 votes)
    10 %
    Other. : (13 votes)
    26 %
    Oh look, a poll! : (6 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
    333 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @SouthernGirl:  i know exactly what you mean! it felt pretty real when we went for our (delicious) caterer tasting, and visiting the venue, buying the dress… but it only felt real in the moment, it definitely has not sunk in yet that i’ll be married in less than 6 months. it’s still crazy and surreal to me!

    Post # 4
    701 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Trying dresses on is what did it for me! It was like a lightbulb went off and it became real that we were getting married. That was a month after he proposed and 7 months before the wedding. 

    Post # 5
    595 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    At the moment still doesn’t feel real. I would of thought it would have by now. All major planning is done. Also when we visit family they ask about planning. And still doesn’t feel real.so I’m guessing it won’t til the day.

    Post # 7
    2363 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

    when it turned 2013… I had people saying “you’re getting married THIS YEAR!!!” Also I am working on my STD’s so I’m having quite a reality check right now haha.

    Post # 8
    407 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014 - Morton Arboretum

    Definatelybuying the dress.  It was weird. I am not a crying sort of girl.  But I get really emotional which turns into very gittery and that butterfly nervious feeling.  Things seem to me like they are a daze.  i.e. this in not my life. This is the life I dreamed of but did not think could happen. 

    So when my fiance proposed I got this feeling.  And yesterday when I found the dress I got the same feeling.  I already have the venue, the invites, the save the dates, and picked out linens and so on.  But when you see yourself in your wedding dress and know it is the one, it is so sureal. 

    That was my experience.

    Post # 9
    1164 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @SouthernGirl:  I’m so glad you brought this up, because I am also feeling the same. We booked the hall and the church and are narrowing down on the photographer but it doesn’t feel real yet!! Maybe because we dated for 7.5 years, and have only been engaged for 2 months? Maybe because we both have weddings coming up this summer that we’re in the bridal party for so there’s alot of work associated with that? I’m looking forward to reading other responses from the bees! Just glad to know that I’m not alone in this feeling (I was beginning to get worried…)

    Post # 10
    701 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    @SouthernGirl:  That’s EXACTLY how I felt until I tried on my dress. It was all so surreal. I still feel like that sometimes even though we are married. I’m just waiting to wake up from this great dream, lol. 

    Post # 11
    12247 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    When we moved up the date by a year! Before it was just something in the distant future, but all of a sudden it was HAPPENING and we were planning and booking things and buying a dress!

    Post # 12
    95 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Mailing out the invitations.


    Post # 13
    2224 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    It doesn’t feel real yet to me and yet, it does at the same time. By the time he proposed, I felt like we were already engaged anyway. It just became official at the time.

    But it still doesn’t feel real enough that we’re getting married because we can’t book anything yet. We’re waiting for him to get his new job so we can see what our budget will look like.

    I think once we book our venue, it will feel real.

    Post # 14
    174 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    It was real when I bought the dress, with my mom’s help, and withher and my sister with me. It was a huge moment for me, and for my sister and mom becasue I am the “baby” and the first to be married. It happened so fast, and that made it real for me.

    Post # 15
    2515 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    i had that moment when i went to our venue about a week prior to the wedding to go over the final details. it was at a hotel and they had their christmas decorations up and i realized those were “our” decorations (we had a 2 year engagement so we saw their decorations the year before but they were different from the ones for our year). i had a bit of a meltdown.

    Post # 16
    542 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    It really didn’t feel that real to me until the three month mark.  We got engaged last March, and didn’t really feel “real” until this past January.  I think that is because when i really started having to buckle down because I knew I only had a couple months left.  27 days left!!!  And omg I can’t wait for it to get here!!

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