(Closed) At what point should I lose my sh*t?

posted 4 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

We went to mens warehouse together and picked out a few suits. Alterations were done quickly too.

Post # 17
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

My husband got his suit from Men’s Warehouse. His was in stock but the groomsmens were not. They said it would take about 3 weeks for those to be ordered, plus time for Alterations. 

Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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everythingpink :  You say, “Hey, Fiance, I have given you more than ample time to select your suit. If you have not chosen it by X date, I will be ordering this for you” and show him a suit of your selection. It’s one thing to not be concerned about it and another thing to be ignorant of how long it’s going to take to order. If he can’t be bothered with it, step in and make the decision for him. Stop putting the control 100% on him as he is not motivated to get it done. Instead of suggesting suit shopping like it’s an option, tell him that’s what you’re doing on whichever day you choose. 

Post # 19
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Honey bee

If he’s renting a tux, it shouldn’t take that long.  Do you really think 17 year old boys renting tuxes for prom have the foresight to go in 3-4 months in advance?  They all somehow end up at prom in tuxes.  Most rental places recommend 3 weeks in advance.  He might not end up in the exact tux you wanted, but it seems pretty unlikely he’ll show up naked.

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

While my Fiance put it off until last weekend for our June 10 2017 wedding, everything was purchased in 2 hours. Jacket off the rack, shirt, tie, cuff links at one store. Pants at another.

And I did the same as PPs. I told Fiance that nearly everything was taken care of except what he was going to wear and it would really help my sanity out if we went shopping. Done. Communication is key.

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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everythingpink :  call Moores, book and appointment for sat afternoon, wake him up with the sweet smell of pankakes or what ever he like and once he is done eating..mtell him you guys have an appointment at _____pm at Moores to go have a look see. He doesnt have to order that day but you guys can just go get ideas…once there be very enthusiastic aboit what ever styles you like… and the staff with do their job at being pushy as in “it needs to be otdered no later than_____” and since he will be there aleeady and probably not want to have to come back… he may just order it then and there, and schedule the fitting appiintment 1 month before the wedding (if it’a rental) Done!

Post # 22
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Helper bee

Lol literally my husband when we were planning our wedding. I actually ended up doing research for his tux and we went together barely 4 weeks before our wedding. I’m sure husband-to-be’s mean well, but nooo idea why things like this happen

Post # 23
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

My DH once hired a tux 2 days before a “black tie” wedding. Leave it to your DH to sort out.

Post # 24
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Busy bee

Loling at the title 😂😂😂😂

 

so sorry, hope he gets a tux by the wedding! If it makes you feel better, my fiancé will be the same way. He has to wear a suit for our job and he bought a lot of pair of black jeans because “no one will notice” 🙄. Idiot. Everyone notices. 

Post # 25
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Sugar Beekeeper

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everythingpink :  

he has taken the time to plan his best friends (he is best man) bachelor weekend in Vegas to a T but can’t order a tux for his own wedding.”

You do see that for the average guy, one of those things is entirely fun and the other is just a chore,  don’t you? ….It’ll be fine , just  drive him to the shop this weekend and push  him in .
 

Post # 26
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I literally lost it at my fiancé and our wedding isn’t until October! He needs to organise his tux like yesterday!! Is he stupid? My gosh! This is unacceptable and I can’t believe you have kept it together up till this point… 

Post # 27
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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everythingpink :  Mine JUST did his last week and our wedding is June 10th so I feel ya. I was worried, but he got it done on his own without me pushing too hard. I did ask him when he was planning to a bunch of times and he gave me the same answers as your Fiance. The groomsmen all wanted to go golfing afterwards so they were waiting for a nice day LOL. Ohhhh men… they drive us crazy.

I think you should have a serious convo with him. Try to do it nicely like… babe… you need to set a date for the tuxes right now, lets figure it out today when you’re going because you might not be able to find the styles you want if you wait too long ESPECIALLY because our wedding is during prime time wedding season. That would work with my Fiance. Sometimes they don’t think ahead about things like we do.

Post # 28
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Busy Beekeeper

Lol, we picked up FI’s suit yesterday and the wedding is in like two weeks. He really loves dragging things out to the last minute! He had a custom made suit that took about 5 weeks to come in. If you’re renting a tux I would think that can be achieved very quickly?

Still I’d be losing my shit too lol. (And I did lose my shit over this issue, several times haha.) It’s the principle of the thing. I keep having to explain this to Fiance any time I try to get something done for the wedding that concerns him and he replies “why do we need to do this now?” BECAUSE IT’S ONE LESS THING FOR ME TO WAKE UP AT 3 AM WORRYING ABOUT!!! 

But yeah I would just take the bull by the horns yourself at this point. 

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

My husband bought his tux at Bonobos and it took 2 days to get here. It’s no big. 🙂

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

My husband didn’t pick out his suit until 4 days before the wedding. But he has suits and just wore one he had. We thought he’d rent another but he put it off too long. If you’re really worried about it, give him til 5 weeks out and if he hasn’t figured it out book an appointment for a month before. 

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