Post # 1
i have so many issues going on in my life, i feel like i’m suffocating sometimes…quarter-life crisis is a real thing, no joke…..i feel like i cant talk to my mom cause she has her own issues and she suffers from clinical depression at times so its hard to come to her with my problems….i dont really have any close best friends right now cuz they all have their own issues in their lives….and FH is always there for me but sometimes his comforting words are only a temporary fix and the next day or two days or week, i’ll find myself overwhelmed all over again….
today is just one of those days… :-/
i dont have insurance right now but will be going on my dads in january til sept when i turn 26…..
at what point do you stop and say, you know what, i think i need to see someone. like seek professional help.
is there a borderline for what can be classified as a serious-enough issue to turn to a therapist/doctor??
is it worth the money to go see one??
i’m tired of hiding behind a wall of shame, i need to know if a childhood experience is real or just my fears making them seem real, i’m tired of pretending that going thru foreclosure and bankruptcy is not emotionally damaging, i’m tired of hating coming to work….its not even a bad job, i enjoy architecture and am blessed to be working at a firm, but tired of working in general….just so many issues….
what should i do??
Post # 3
I think you need to see someone. It sounds like you don’t have anyone that you can really talk to that can help you get through the problems that you are having. All the money things you are going through are truly stressful and you need somene to talk to.
Post # 4
@MamaHusky3: I think you should make an appointment for the beginning of January when your insurance kicks in. I have a counselor I have seen off and on since I was about 13. I love having her there to talk to. It sounds like you may benefit from it. I personally don’t think seeing a counselor is a bad thing and whenever I go it REALLY helps.
Post # 5
You might be able to see if you can get a couple discounted sessions in, you sound pretty low.
Post # 6
I agree with the others. I believe that talking to a professional is very important. The unfortunate thing is, most, if not all, insurance companies make it very expensive to see a therapist. On my current insurance and my husband’s insurance, it is so inexpensive to see a GP and even a specialist. However, if you want to see a therapist, there are all these stipulations.
Why is it that insurance companies don’t believe that mental health is just as important as physical health?
Post # 7
If theres any question at all, it’s time to see a professional. There is no shame in seeking help. Heck, I think everyone can benefit from having a completely unbiased person to talk to! Wishing you the best and hope you can find what you’re looking for.
Post # 8
im a firm believer in therapy. with or without problems, it really helps to talk to someone who doesnt have a biased opinion. I say go for it as soon as insurance allows.
Post # 9
There’s no shame in seeking help. We pay big bucks to have someone teach us how to swing a golf club or succeed at a sport or give us our education, but it’s rare that we spend that same investment on our emotional health. I think it’s a great investment. This is something that our marriage counselor pointed out in regards to any marrital troubles down the road, and I think it applies to our individual troubles too. Best of wishes!
Post # 10
It may take a few trys to find the fright therapist, but it can be worth it. Don’t settle on any therapist. They just have a way of helping you see what it really causing the problems. Or you could find a good self help book that can help you manage stress and anxiety if you you a person who can learn and take it in.
Post # 11
I think if you are already questioning it in your own mind, that you need to go seek some help. If you are a Christian seek a Christian Counselor as they can give you the best advice. If not go see someone you are comfortable with. Check if your work gives you EAP (Employee Assistance Program) in a lot of cases you can go and see someone for free for 3 sessions. It’s worth checking into.
Advice: Be prepared for the tough things and be prepared to open up and really evaluate yourself and answer questions you never thought you would answer or see in yourself. It can be truely eye opening though. It helped me however, I wouldn’t mind going back as I was never able to keep going due to finances/loss of job at that point. It’s worth it in the long run.
Good luck and keep your head up. You already have great support you just have to recognize that. Let us know how you are doing.
Post # 12
If there is something in your life that is bothering you, you owe it to yourself to work on it. Truly. I think therapy is beneficial to most people – you may not need to go for long, or very often, but if something is bringing you down and you can’t seem to overcome it yourself, it is great to seek out someone to help you see things more objectively. So go!
I agree that I’d wait until January to make that appointment. If insurance becomes an issue, many therapists will work on a sliding scale. And if you don’t like the first one you see, try another. It can take time to get the right person – when you do, it can be life-changing.
Good luck 🙂
Post # 13
I went to a therapist “when I was your age”. I went through a lot of traumatic situations in a 5 year period. It did help to go once a week and just cry. As Yearns4God states, definitely be prepared to open up and be honest about the tough questions. I only went for 6 weeks and never had to go again. However, those sessions really gave me some tools to deal with stressful situations in the future.
If you can’t afford to pay for it and your company doesn’t have an EAP program, perhaps a minister could help or direct you to free/discounted assistance as well.
Post # 14
thanks for all the replies…
guess i’m just afraid of sounding silly…i know there are a lot of people out there who are truly sick or who have way worse problems than me…
but looks like the general consensus is i should definitely go… i wouldnt even know where to start…
Post # 15
The problems you are having are a big deal to YOU, which doesn’t make them stupid or silly. Once you get on your parents’ insurance, look on their website for doctors that are covered. They should have a listing.
Post # 16
I think the first step in helping yourself is knowing that you should go and talk to someone. It sounds like you’re getting to that point. You’re feeling overwhelmed and want someone to talk to, and you should make an appointment to see someone. It’s not about if a specific issue is “serious” enough for you to talk to someone about it…it’s your overall feeling of anxiousness and being overwhelmed that makes me see that you would definitely benefit from talkign with someone.
Also, the fact that your mom suffers from clinical depression would be enough for me to say that you should talk with someone! Start with a psychologist. If your company has an Employee Assistance Program, they sometimes offer a few free visits with a counselor. If you don’t have insurance now, but are going onto your dad’s plan, his health provider might be able to help you find someone who would suit you.
I hope you start to feel better after you start talking with someone. I think you will!