(Closed) At you ladies, do YOU have “the one who got away?”

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Hell no! All of my ex’s are worthless. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I don’t have one that got away … I caught him … but I do see the other side of it too.  For me, if the feelings were strong still, then it’s something I would want to address prior to getting married.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Nope. I was the one who ended every other relationship because they didn’t feel right/were bad or abusive in some way.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

My high school boyfriend was my first everything, my best friend, the guy I saw myself with long-term, etc.  We were so young and innocent, and we believed our love meant everything.  But we went to different colleges, broke up, grew apart, met other people, etc.

It’s not that I feel like he got away, but I’ve often believed that we could’ve been happy together, if circumstances were different.  He called to congratulate me on my engagement last year (we’re facebook friends and he saw my status).  It was really nice and we made plans to have lunch and catch up.

The lunch was AWKWARD.  I mean, it was fine, and we talked and caught up, but I felt like I was speaking with an acquaintance, I was a little bored, and there was no spark.  I still think we maybe could’ve had something, but after that lunch it was clear that we would never be able to go back, and that that was fine.  I’m glad I saw him and still want the best for him, etc, but I’m even more happy that I’m with my current guy.  So just because he “got away” doesn’t mean that I’m upset about it.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

No I haven’t cos they were all prats in some way or more lol.

My first love wasn’t until I was 21 and he was 41 and one of the prats I mentioned. Looking at the relationship after it was a relationship based on lust and not love. But from this I knew when I had ultimate love and therefore the one. 😉

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

no no and a HELL FRIGGIN NO.

I love my Fiance more than all of them combined.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I was just thinking about this yesterday. I have an ex who I had a very passionate relationship with. We could not keep our hands off each other even after the initial honeymoon phase. What I felt for him is unlike anything I have felt for anyone else…including Fiance. However, we weren’t good together AT ALL. We are both a little… emotionally challenged…and need to be with someone a lot calmer and more grounded. We had different priorities, goals and, well, everything. I am A LOT more content with Fiance. We are good together, we make a good team and agree on all the major things that matter to me in a relationship.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

No, I don’t have one.  I am VERY fortunate to be married to the guy with whom I have the deepest, most solid emotional connection I have ever experienced.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

No.. the only other guy I dated before Fiance was my high school boyfriend, and we were together for 3 years.  When I left for college (he was a year older and stayed at a school in our city), and things weren’t working out between us, we ended up breaking up like a month after I left.  I had met my now Fiance at the beginning of college, and went through an entire semester of “Should I get back together with my ex or should I try it out with someone new?” back & forth, for months, as my ex wanted to get back together with me.  I remember talking to a good friend of mine from high school on the phone 1 night about the whole situation, and remember talking about being afraid that he was “the one” and that I was going to let him “get away” because he might find someone else & if things didn’t work out with this new guy, I felt like he’d be the 1 that got away & I’d seriously regret it.

Thank GOD I went with “the new guy” as he’s now my fiance! I thought what me & the ex had was wonderful, thought he cared so much about me, no one else would care about me as much as he did, etc… but he is definitely NOT the one who got away..

I’m glad I let him go, as looking back on it, he probably did more harm than good when it came to me learning what relationships are like, but I was too young & naive to see it at the time (ie making justifications for when he’d say things like he couldn’t compare me to other girls because then he’d just find all my flaws.  Yeah.  I still think about him saying that to me, probably still on a weekly basis at this point.  That left a serious mark.  Why I thought he’d be the 1 that got away is beyond me now, but hindsight is 20/20 I guess! Although when I think about it, I may be “the one that got away” for him!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I have no regrets about dumping my exes. But I did have a male friend who I had a crush on as kid. He moved away and we drifted apart, but I still think about him every so often and wonder what it could have been like. That’s just the nostalgia talking though, I don’t know who he is anymore.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@RenoRose: I loved the ex but I wasn’t all consuming in love and nothing compared to what I have now, I was just always thinking when are we going to have sex next lol. My previous relationships like at college were mainly lust with a bit of love because they were prats and although I wanted them to feel more towards me I did know they weren’t right as they had many faults. If they’re a prat then they’re not right for you. Don’t let it confuse you, it shouldn’t. My ex broke it off in the end and I thought why not me – but to be honest thank goodness. If you broke up then it wasn’t right.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Miss OBG:

This could be me. I was with my high school bf for 5 years, and I broke up with him – so he hardly “got away.” I knew at the time that our lives were moving in different directions, and didn’t want to be tied down. But he was (and is) a wonderful, sweet, funny guy.  He got married two years ago.  And although I could have seen myself having a happy life with him if we’d been 10 years older, well, we weren’t.  And I’m now with a guy who I love to pieces, who’s great for me, and I wouldn’t trade him for the world (or for my previous bf).

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