Post # 1
I’ve been reading about attachment parenting, and I’m liking a lot of the philosophies associated with it. One area where I likely diverge is with co-sleeping. My husband and I have decided that it would be safer for our child to sleep in her own crib, at the foot of our bed. She’s been sleeping there for three plus weeks now, and all has been going well for the most part.
However, I’ve noticed that when my daughter falls asleep anywhere but the crib, it’s largely a quiet event. If she falls asleep at my breast after nursing, or on the couch next to me, or in her bassinet while downstairs, she doesn’t often make noise. But when I put her to sleep in her crib, either initially or after I nurse her during the night, as soon as the lights go out, she makes noises. Sometimes it sounds like grunts or general fussiness, but she eventually goes to sleep.
Anyone have any thoughts on this? I don’t want to start co-sleeping now since she seems to do well in her crib. But I’d love any advice.
Post # 3
we co-slept with all (7) of our children. They all moved into cribs at around 1 year old with no problem. Your baby probably goes to sleep faster next to you because of a) warmth and b) hearing your heartbeat. If you are dead set against co-sleeping try swaddling her for warmth and try a whomb box for white noise.
Post # 4
Baby Smushface did this too. He would fall asleep nursing or in our arms during the day but when we put him down to sleep at night he would grunt a LOT. He eventually grew out of it.
We were swaddling him so perhaps part of it was him adjusting to being constricted (since we only did it at night). We never did co-sleeping because I thought it was safer for him to be in his own space (especially since my husband has accidently smacked me in the head while sleeping).
Post # 5
A white noise maker helps a lot. I got one that has womb sounds and heatbeat sounds. DD seemed to bed down faster and easier with that. We also figured out that she wanted pressure on her body in a certain way. We would nudge her favorite stuffy against the top of her head. If we forgot she would often wake up right away. Those two things and the swaddle were essential from 6-9 months to get her to stay asleep alone in the crib.
I think it is a trial and error thing. Try a swaddle. Try the white noise. Try one of those projectors that puts pictures on the ceiling. Use a brighter/dimmer nightlight or none at all. Maybe try those animals that glow stars on the cieling. Maybe your house is too hot or cold, mess with the thermostat. We kept trying things until we found what works, so I hope you can find something for your LO to bed down easier!
Post # 6
My daughter is still getting used to the idea of a crib. She’ll go in there for naps sometimes now but before she woke up so much when we’d put her in the crib, even with the swaddle. For us it wasn’t that she wouldn’t fall asleep in the crib it was that she wouldn’t stay asleep. Momma likes sleep so now she sleeps in a swing next to our bed, I like her in our room but not really in our bed, though she does sleep in there for a few hours sometimes in the morning if she wakes up early.
I’m not sure what it is for her but the crib is probably the worst place for her sleeping – bassinets, her swing, our bed she’ll sleep 7 hours straight since she was a couple weeks old….crib she wakes up many, many, many times during naps or at night, and it’s not a matter of being lonely, even if I’m in the room with her she wake up.
Post # 7
Many babies prefer to snuggle with mom or dad to falling asleep by themselves in a big, lonely crib, especially during the newborn stage. 🙂 They like the warmth, smell, and sound of you, plus newborns often like the cuddly, cozy feeling of smaller sleeping space. Definitely it’s your personal preference if you want to snuggle her to sleep at night or if you want her to go to sleep on her own in her crib; if you want to, at this point, you could always let her fall asleep somewhere else and then transfer her to her crib. Otherwise, just try out different things until you find what is most comfortable for her.
Post # 8
Thanks for your great suggestions!
She is swaddled tightly in her crib at night. In fact, we keep her in her swaddle for a good part of the day, too, though usually with her arms out.
Also, she’s almost always already asleep once we put her into the crib, after having fallen asleep in my or her dad’s arms.
Last night, to help her crib feel not so vast, I placed two large, fluffy, folded then rolled up towels on either side of her, up to her shoulders. She didn’t grunt as she usually does, which was nice, and she slept five full hours! I nursed her for about five minutes before she fell fast asleep again, but this time, there was a bit of grunting. I even kept her in my arms for a while after having burped her before putting her back into the crib.
I guess it really is a matter of trial and error, of finding what works for you and your baby.
Wish us luck!
Post # 9
Oh, maybe you and Dad can sleep with the towels for a couple of nights so they pick up your scent. My DD loves Daddy’s day-old shirts.