Post # 17
I think you need to know that most protestants don’t understand the concept that you have been taught of the communion of Saints. For some of them they believe that you are worshiping a person other than God and that’s not the purpose of the Communion of Saints. Your Future Sister-In-Law wouldn’t have seen your quote as a joke so she was trying to encourage you to pray to God who she knows answers prayers. Don’t be offended but let her know that you were taught that talking to a Saint is like talking to a good friend, and that “patron Saints” are considered to be knowledgeable about specific needs. Gently let her know that you were offended, she may not have meant to annoy you but rather to let you know of her faith and trust in God.
Post # 18
I think it was a slight jab couched in a poor attempt a humor.
She may try again to gently poke you about your faith background (just not understanding it). You may have to say something at some point. A lot of protestants don’t understand Catholic practice.
Post # 19
I agree with PP that it’s likely just a bad joke. I wouldn’t worry about it.
Post # 20
My in-laws sometimes make comments about how Protestants kinda look down on Catholics. although my FH was raised Catholic, he does not practice it – while the rest of the family is VERY Catholic – like go to mass several days a week Catholic. As a non-Catholic, I have never picked up on Protestants’ dislike of Catholicism. I am gnostic (not agnostic). I have attended several masses and enjoyed the symbolism and ritual very much.
I also happen to love the saints! Several statues of St. Francis are displayed here (one outside the cat sanctuary) and believe me when I say we call on him often, as well as St. Gertrude.
Since I am gnostic, I believe all great faiths have validity. I have some I favor a bit more, but that’s me. It is not my place to tell anybody what to believe. As for your Future Sister-In-Law, I would write it off as ignorance unless it continues.
Post # 21
Sounds like a poor joke to me too, especially since she said “the big guy himself,” not exactly a proper term. i would give her the benefit of the doubt, both for her being ignorant and making a bad joke.
I’m so sorry about your cat!
Post # 22
You know, Saints are one of the main differences between Catholics and Protestants. I think that many Catholics got to worship Saints more than Jesus, which is not a good thing, and this is what causes Protestants to react aggressively or negatively. Perhaps this explains your FSIL’s behaviour (which is unfair since you were just being humoristic…), I am a Catholic and my only Saints of reference are Saint Francis and Saint Claire of Assisi, my fiance gave me an engagement ring in Assisi….
Post # 23
Doesn’t sound like an attack at all, IMO. Sounds like a genuine question which might be the beginning of an interesting/enlightening/educational discussion for you and your Future Mother-In-Law to have. Do you yourself even know the answer to the question, “Why do Catholics sometimes ask Saints to interced for them instead of always directly to God?” It certainly wouldn’t hurt to research that question yourself, then instead of being offended by Future Mother-In-Law, you can simply answer her question.
ETA: But I am seriously baffled about why you even care about any of this, or are even praying to Saints yourself if you don’t even believe in God or whatever…
Post # 24
As much as I am happy that this has gotten my mind stirring, I guess I was more angry from an etiquette standpoint. I don’t believe in God, I don’t pray to the Saints (though I think their stories are interesting), I don’t go to Mass (unless I go to a funeral)…etc. I think in hindsight, what made me more angry is the fact that she knows my background and the fact that a large amount of my family and friends are Catholic, and she invaded my status with criticism…even after many of them had commented. She is constantly posting pro-life, anti-gay marriage, uber-religious things, and I keep my cyber mouth shut. I know she probably thought she was being funny, but I know part of it was a jab…and I just really didn’t appreciate her taking on the people I am close to in my life when she really has no knowledge of the Catholic faith and is completely ignorant.