(Closed) Attend this shower?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
13012 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would send a small gift with my regrets.  Don’t feel obligated to go, especially because you hardly know her. 

Post # 4
989 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Sounds like you were added to the wedding guest list after seeing them at the family event and you received a shower invite based on that.  (There was a thread yesterday about how in many circles shower invites go to every female on the wedding guest list while bachelorette invites are sent only to the bride’s closest friends.)

I would definitely not feel obligated to go.  As abbie07 said, sent a small gift and regrets.

Post # 5
243 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I am hoping this doesn’t happen to me— I was told by my future Mother-In-Law who to invite to my shower even if I didn’t know them :/ I would expect maybe the bride was told you were family and to add you on the list? I would think regrets would be fine- esp so close to your own wedding!

Post # 6
1274 posts
Bumble bee

Sending regrets would be fine. Maybe send a card and a small gift if you feel like it. I find it weird when showers are extended to everyone in the family/friends that haven’t seen each other in 20 years or haven’t met before. 

Post # 7
717 posts
Busy bee

showers are typically for close friends and family to “shower” the bride/couple with gifts.  i don’t think you are obligated to go.  send a nice card.  you have enough expenses and things to do the week before your wedding

Post # 9
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I learned yesterday that showers are sometimes for every female invited to the wedding, so that could be why you got an invite. I wouldn’t go in your situation either since you barely know the girl.

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