(Closed) Bridesmaids and FSIL's……what to do?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper

@liade:  Surely the older sister recognizes that you’re closer with the younger one. I don’t see why you can’t ask the one you’re friends with and not the other. If it were your own sisters, it might be awkward or hurtful to ask one and not the other, but in this case, it seems perfectly fine. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

@Daisy_Mae:  “Surely the older sister recognizes that you’re closer with the younger one. I don’t see why you can’t ask the one you’re friends with and not the other. If it were your own sisters, it might be awkward or hurtful to ask one and not the other, but in this case, it seems perfectly fine.

I second everything you said.

I would, however, take into account the type of person your FI’s older sister is. If she’s the type to create drama from the fact you didn’t ask her, I would think carefully before you put yourself in the middle of what could be an ugly situation, for not only yourself, but your fiancé, your in laws and you Future Sister-In-Law.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

@liade:  Are you close enough to ask his sister you’re friends with, how she thinks the older sister would react? Or just go straight to your fiancé and see what he thinks?

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

@liade:  I think perhaps you should go with your initial plan of asking the younger sister to be a bridesmaid and have a reason ready to give the older sister, if she asks/mentions her not being a bridesmaid. 

Do you have any idea if your Future Mother-In-Law and Future Father-In-Law will be bothered by it?

I’m all for it being the brides day, so if you don’t want to invite her you shouldn’t, it would just be nice to have an idea if you will be dealing with in law drama.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

@liade:  Wrong wording on my part, I was refering to inviting her to be a bridesmaid! If you were not wanting to invite her to the wedding, that would be much more of a problem.

It sounds as if there will be no hurt feelings, I hope everything works out for you!

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