(Closed) Attended her Bachelorette Party in Vegas, SANG in and attended her wedding but..

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
5988 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

not that you are not important but its been 5yrs since her wedding and peoples priorities change. your friend had a child and who knows financially where she is right now

for me, friendship isnt about keeping score and if you feel that frustrated by it then maybe the friendship has moved on



Post # 4
1019 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I think eloping gave you some great advice! Ditto what she said 🙂

Post # 5
1115 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

That sucks and I can totally relate.

I was a bridemaid in my BFF’s wedding back in 2003. I helped organize and pay for bachelorette and bridal shower.

She ended up cheating on her husband about a year before my wedding and was going through a very selfish time in her life.

By the time my shower/bachelorette/wedding came around, she could barely take the focus off of herself long enough to even answer simple emails asking for her opinion on a few things.

I ended up planning my own bachelorette party. She FELL ASLEEP at my bridal shower. And she and her husband "worked things out" shortly before my wedding…only to have a huge fight and cause a scene at my reception.

I am still pissed at her. I understand she was going through her own shit but she couldn’t have at least made an ATTEMPT to reciprocate all the nice things I did for her wedding?!


So I know how you feel. It sucks. Hang in there!

Post # 6
149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree to a point with the above posters.  It does appear that your friends priorities have shifted (as they should when you have a child) however……..I can understand what you are feeling. 

No, friendship is not about keeping score or expecting something back from someone but it is about mutual respect.  It sounds to me like you put a big effort into your friends wedding and she has barely acknowledged yours.  Although you don’t need her to do the same things for you, it would be nice if she could show some support for this wonderful time in your life. 

As for the beginning of your post, this has also happened to me where people make the wedding more about themselves.  We have all experienced this from time to time and I feel for you but you should never have to apologize for any of the wonderful things that are happening for you.  Just remember that when you need a time to come and have people happy for you, come to the Bees…thats what they are best at….showing excitment for the other brides.  Enjoy your time…although cliche to say, It flies by….. 

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