Post # 1
Hello first time poster here….
I’m really upset about something…
My friends have all been acting really jealous and selfish since Igot engaged….it seems thatthey are not in as good of places of their lives as I am so they’re not acting happy for me at all…It’s been frustrating to say the least that I’ve had to apologize for this extremely wonderful and happy tiem inmy life…I mean, even my aunt and brother have been making my weding all about them….
However, this question is about a friend of mine: In 2006 she practically cried and begged me to fly to Las Vegas with her because she was determined to go have a fantastic Bachelorette party in Vegas…I spent a LOT of money on our trip including buying her and I $200+ tickets to a Bon Jovi concert….among other things….I also SANG in her weddign and of course attended it and her bridal shower…..
Now, my mother tells me that not only is she not attending my bridal shower (because her son has a christening which I was NOT aware of and NOT invited to) but that she “MAY” attend my wedding depending on if her husband can get off work….
I mean, come on, I flew cross country with you five years ago, did everything for you, helepd throw your bridal shower and now you’re not even going to come to my shower, have your child’s party not invite me and then “consider” my wedding?? It’s really hurtful….
Have any of you had similar selfish situations where your friends completely FORGOT what you did for/with them?
Frustrated and freezing in the Tri state area…
Post # 3
not that you are not important but its been 5yrs since her wedding and peoples priorities change. your friend had a child and who knows financially where she is right now
for me, friendship isnt about keeping score and if you feel that frustrated by it then maybe the friendship has moved on
Post # 4
I think eloping gave you some great advice! Ditto what she said 🙂
Post # 5
That sucks and I can totally relate.
I was a bridemaid in my BFF’s wedding back in 2003. I helped organize and pay for bachelorette and bridal shower.
She ended up cheating on her husband about a year before my wedding and was going through a very selfish time in her life.
By the time my shower/bachelorette/wedding came around, she could barely take the focus off of herself long enough to even answer simple emails asking for her opinion on a few things.
I ended up planning my own bachelorette party. She FELL ASLEEP at my bridal shower. And she and her husband "worked things out" shortly before my wedding…only to have a huge fight and cause a scene at my reception.
I am still pissed at her. I understand she was going through her own shit but she couldn’t have at least made an ATTEMPT to reciprocate all the nice things I did for her wedding?!
So I know how you feel. It sucks. Hang in there!
Post # 6
I agree to a point with the above posters. It does appear that your friends priorities have shifted (as they should when you have a child) however……..I can understand what you are feeling.
No, friendship is not about keeping score or expecting something back from someone but it is about mutual respect. It sounds to me like you put a big effort into your friends wedding and she has barely acknowledged yours. Although you don’t need her to do the same things for you, it would be nice if she could show some support for this wonderful time in your life.
As for the beginning of your post, this has also happened to me where people make the wedding more about themselves. We have all experienced this from time to time and I feel for you but you should never have to apologize for any of the wonderful things that are happening for you. Just remember that when you need a time to come and have people happy for you, come to the Bees…thats what they are best at….showing excitment for the other brides. Enjoy your time…although cliche to say, It flies by…..