Post # 1
Hi Bees- I just recently moved to another state (away from family and all of my girlfriends) and would like to buy my dress close to home for alteration purposes. Is it weird or a bad idea to go to trunk shows or bridal dress shopping alone? I could wait for someone to visit me or buy it out of state, but time is of essence and I would really like to buy it close to home as I mentioned. Thanks!
Post # 2
No go alone – I went dress shopping alone most of the time – nothing wrong with it and you don’t feel pressured by anyone. goodluck.
Post # 3
I did a lot of my dress shopping alone. I don’t think it’s weird, and I don’t think the bridal salons will think it’s odd either. I also agree with your reasoning about purchasing your dress close to home for the convenience of having alterations near where you live.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2016 - Bernardus Lodge and Spa, Carmel Valley, CA
I may not be dealing with dress regret right now if I had gone alone. When my mom burst into tears and my aunt welled up I got so excited I bought the dress. Now I’m trying to figure out what to do. However if you try something and are not sure don’t buy it just because the trunk show is only one day. You may not even get your dress altered at the bridal salon and instead go to a seamstress so you could always find out another way to order it. Good luck!
Post # 5
I would not even think twice about going alone.
You’ll be able to focus on your own vision without being distracted by family/friends.
Not that there is anything wrong with going with family/friends. I’m just saying that going alone has its advantages too.
Definitely do not miss going to a trunk show that sounds fun and promising just because you don’t have anyone to go with! That would be so sad! Besides you might meet other brides there who also are going solo.
Post # 6
I took my mom and sister on my first dress shopping trip and it was nothing like I imagined. They were more interested in looking at their own MOH/MOB outfits, and after 4 or 5 wedding dresses, they got irritated and impatient. I could also ‘feel’ their eyes on my every imperfection as I stood on the little raised podium. I left the store feeling sad, frustrated and embarassed. I went to 2 other stores by myself, tried as many dresses as I liked and took my time. A much nicer experience! One of the sales ladies told me many brides go alone and not to feel awkward about it. All in all, I highly recommend it!
Post # 7
- Wedding: April 2016 - Athol Hall, Mosman
I don’t live near my family, so I went alone the majority of the time and brought my Future Mother-In-Law and fiancè when I found my dress. Personally, I think it’s better not to carry an entourage. You can get more done without them.
Post # 8
I went alone! My consultant said she preferred it as you actually get to try on more dresses in her opinion! I very much enjoyed my alone time vs with others and found my dress when I was alone!
Post # 9
I wish i had gone alone first!! 10 different shops over 6 months and 4 dresses in my wardrobe later………. major dress regret each time! i was always listening to what everyone else thought not realising that really they’re thinking of the type and style that they would wear. i finally went on my own and ended up buying the dress i loved from my first visit, and guess what when those same people saw me try it on when it came home….they loved it.
Post # 10
I went alone as my mum lives in a different country. When I thought I’d found the one I took a couple of girlfriends to see it before I ordered. I wanted to scope things out first and not waste anyone’s time. I enjoyed doing it alone, I knew roughly what I wanted although it was fun to try on a few dresses that I would never have picked myself. It was very calm going by myself and I felt like I wasn’t rushing. Many consultants said they wished more brides would shop by themselves at first then bring their relatives and friends to see the one/ones they liked the best.
Post # 11
I shopped alone, and kept the dress secret from everyone until the wedding day. The best decision I’ve made. First of all, nobody’s opinion mattered to me more than my own. Second, I got to wow everyone at the wedding. Third, it seems silly that a bunch of people, other than the groom, would see the dress before the event. The groom should be the one to see it first if you’re doing a first look.
Post # 12
I am in your exact situation! I moved 3k miles away last summer and now that we are engaged I am starting to relaize I am going to do alot of the planning alone. I don’t know if this is unusual or not but I am just gonna have to do it solo or it will never happen lol. Personally, I am disappointed that I am not getting to share this time and experiences with my Mom and Maid/Matron of Honor but such is life right? I am lucky to have an amazing man and people in my life who are willing to come to my wedding, no matter where it is. Love and support to you Bee!
Post # 13
I moved a few hours away from my parents and close friends last year for a job I couldn’t turn down. It’s made dress shopping a bit of a challenge, but also a bit of a relief.
My mom did come out to my area for a first round of dress shopping, and I’ve gone with my Future Mother-In-Law and a friend, but like previous posters have said, I just felt like their eyes were on the imperfections and my insecurities. I felt like they were staring when the dresses didn’t zip up all the way and I had to be clipped in, when they were too small in the bust, when they hugged my stomach in an unflattering way. It was really stressful, and I felt pressured to like the dresses that I felt hid my problem areas and looked okay in the moment – as opposed to what they could look like once they were my size.
I ended up going alone to an appointment, and it was night and day. I browsed at my own pace, stayed as long as I wanted in a dress, dismissed others as soon as I had them on without feeling like I needed to show them to people who had taken the time to accompany me.
TLDR, I recommend doing both. Take a group once, but also go alone once. See which helps you more as a person.
Post # 14
I went shopping twice with my Bridal Party and twice by myself. I found THE ONE when I went by myself…zero regrets going by myself 🙂
Post # 15
I went by myself. I ended up going to Davids, a resale shop, then back to Davids on cybermonday. I wasn’t planning on buying a dress that day, but I found one I liked and got a good deal.
I went back to the resale shop to get my veil and invited a few girlfriends who were also getting married. I brought my dress so I could try it on with the accessories, so I did get a bit of that experience. Maybe you could invite someone back when you go for the fitting or to get accessories.