Post # 1
I know most people are not on speaking terms with their exes but some people are. If you are, would you attend their wedding?
My friend dated someone from HS to freshman year of college. Their break up was mutal and they stayed friends. They live in different cities so don’t see each other often but keep in touch. He got married last night and she went, with her boyfriend.
Prior to the ceremony she chatted with the groom’s mother and she said,”I can’t believe you came! I yelled at him when I found out he even invited you!” She thought that maybe the mother thought she would try to stop the wedding which she had NO desire to do so. Regardless of her “reasoning” I think what she said was a little rude.
Is it appropriate or is a wedding crossing the line?
Post # 3
My most recent ex will be at my wedding, because we’re still really good, if not best, friends.
I don’t think it’s that weird because we’re still friends. However, my FI invited his ex-wife, which makes me incredilbly uncomfortable, but they also are barely civil with each other, so it’s not the same situation. (His son will be in the wedding, and my FI wants the kind of relationship where they would attend each others weddings, etc. even though they don’t have that yet.)
Post # 4
If both the bride and groom actually want the ex there, then its ok to attend the wedding. Otherwise I think its inappropriate. I would not go to an ex’s wedding if it was at all serious when we dated or if we had dated recently. I would also not go if I did not like his fiancee or if I knew his fiancee did not like me.
ETA: If there are kids involved (as in I have kids with the groom) and my kids are in the wedding and/or too young to go alone then I would probably go if invited. I would be pretty antisocial though.
Post # 5
I think it depends on the relationship, both my ex’s were at our wedding, none of his were but my ex’s came to the same university as we were at and were part of a larger social group that were all invited, I didn’t go out of my way to invite them because they were my ex’s.
Post # 6
One of my exes will be invited since we are still good friends. I would go to his wedding if he invited me.
@Neetch: That stinks. 🙁 Could you have someone keep an eye on her just in case…
Post # 7
I think most of the hype about exes at weddings is absurd. In some cases, it’s justified, I guess, but not for me. Most of my break ups have been amicable and at least one of my exes will be at my wedding. It was highschool, we’re still friends, and it is seriously not a big deal.
If an ex invited me to a wedding, I wouldn’t think twice about it and I’d happily go (depending on the ex, of course).
Post # 8
I’d piss my pants if my recent ex showed up to my wedding.
My gay ex boyfriend, well, I think everyone else would piss their pants.
Post # 9
Haha, funny you mention that. My ex will be a GM at my wedding and possibly the best man if FI’s cousin is deployed. We are great friends we just didn’t click as a couple, its the running joke in our group of friends and I must say I am very happy he will be standing up there with us on our wedding day.
Post # 10
It totally depends on the relationship, but if they invited you .. why not?
Post # 11
FH has an ex that I’ll be surprised if we don’t end up going to her wedding. They dated in high school and have been good friends since then. I wouldn’t want to go to any of the others’ weddings, though.
I don’t have any exes, so I can’t really speak for myself.
Post # 12
i personally wouldn’t go to any ex’s weddings simply b/c my ex’s are just that, ex’s.
there is nothing wrong with going to an ex’s wedding if the two are still friends and the new mate has no problem with it.
Post # 13
I also think it depends on the situation. If both the bride and groom are ok with having an ex at the wedding and all parties are comfortable with each other then I say go for it. I personally would NOT want any of my FI’s ex’s at our wedding, nor would I want any of mine there.
Post # 14
For me, it depends which ex! lol
But my son’s father (a long time ago ex) was at my wedding along with his family. It really wouldn’t have been the same without them. I’m so thankful that they were all able to make it 🙂 And my husband feels the same way.
Post # 15
Yeah, both the groom and bride were on board with the idea. The only one that was mad seemed to be the mom.
I have one ex and it wasn’t serious (dated him for 2 months prior to DH while in HS) so I don’t know where I would stand. I don’t see an issue though if they are still friends. Just because two people have dated doesn’t make a friendship off limits.
Post # 16
Uhhhh no! if one of my ex’s came my FI would probably walk and vice versa. Unless your BOTH still mutual friends then it MAY be acceptable