(Closed) Attending DH’s Friend’s Party Alone/Without Him

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would you attend a friend of your SO's party alone/without him?
    Yes, totally! : (6 votes)
    19 %
    Maybe for a little while, but not long. : (14 votes)
    45 %
    No, definitely not. : (10 votes)
    32 %
    Other. : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    It really depends on how well I know the people.  I go places on my own all the time, though.  

    Post # 4
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    2196 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    I’m an awkward person generally so I wouldn’t unless I knew someone well enough not to stand around looking like a creeper. In your situation I would be very reluctant to go.

    Post # 5
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    4693 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @PixelMePretty:   I’m really socially awkward as well. I wouldn’t feel comfortable going!

    Post # 6
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    433 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I’m actually in this situation a lot because Fiance works absolutely crazy hours (he’s a doctor), but colleagues of his will have parties for his whole work group. Because of the nature of his profession, it looks good for both of us if I show up even if he’s working that night, and it gives me an opporunity to get out of the house. I don’t love doing it, but I’ve gotten more used to it over the past year (we live somewhere new, I work from home, and I’m desperate for social things to do). I definitely don’t stay as long as I would if he was there, but I’ll find the one or two other wives I know and try to stick around them a lot of the time I’m there.

    Post # 7
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    8439 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Think of it from the opposite side. How happy/flatetred/impressed would these friends be to know that you care and respect them and their relationship with your SO enough to come along without your SO!

    Post # 8
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    433 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    (and I’m really socially awkward too, and was soooo freaked out the first time I went to one of his work events without him, but I’ve learned a little better how to deal with it now)

    Post # 9
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    3626 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I’ve had dinner with one of FI’s friends when Fiance couldn’t make it, but I feel like his friends would ignore me if they were in a group (at a party) and I was there. Actually, now that I think about it, I’d go if it was college friends. I was initially talking about his high school friends.

    Post # 11
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    574 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    It really depends.  I go to places and events without Darling Husband all the time, but I normally know everyone there anyway.  If it would be something where I wouldn’t know too many people, I might go, but I wouldn’t be as comfortable.

    Post # 13
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    989 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I know all of FI’s friends pretty well so I wouldn’t think anything of stopping by.  I probably wouldn’t make it a very long visit though.  Long enough to say hello/congratuations/happy birthday/whatever, have a drink and mingle a bit, then take off.

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