Post # 1
It’s one of DH’s really good friend’s birthday party tonight, and unfortunately, due to unexpected work issues that came up, DH was unable to attend. He asked me if I was going to go anyway, but I said I wasn’t sure. I would, of course, know the b-day boy, his wife and his and her parents, but I’m not sure who else was going tonight. DH then said he’s phoning the wife to let her know he can’t go and would see what she says (either, “Okay, that’s fine” or “Is your wife still coming?”) She replied with the first, so we figured it wasn’t a big deal if I didn’t go. DH works with this guy, so its not like we can’t give our card and gift tomorrow, anyway.
This got me thinking and curious, though… would you be comfortable with going to an event/get-together/party that was with only your SO’s friends, without him? Why, or why not?
I’d like to add, if I knew that there were some other people I know quite well going, I would have definitely been more apt to go, but I do like my evenings to myself. 🙂
Post # 3
It really depends on how well I know the people. I go places on my own all the time, though.
Post # 4
I’m an awkward person generally so I wouldn’t unless I knew someone well enough not to stand around looking like a creeper. In your situation I would be very reluctant to go.
Post # 5
I’m really socially awkward as well. I wouldn’t feel comfortable going!
Post # 6
I’m actually in this situation a lot because Fiance works absolutely crazy hours (he’s a doctor), but colleagues of his will have parties for his whole work group. Because of the nature of his profession, it looks good for both of us if I show up even if he’s working that night, and it gives me an opporunity to get out of the house. I don’t love doing it, but I’ve gotten more used to it over the past year (we live somewhere new, I work from home, and I’m desperate for social things to do). I definitely don’t stay as long as I would if he was there, but I’ll find the one or two other wives I know and try to stick around them a lot of the time I’m there.
Post # 7
Think of it from the opposite side. How happy/flatetred/impressed would these friends be to know that you care and respect them and their relationship with your SO enough to come along without your SO!
Post # 8
(and I’m really socially awkward too, and was soooo freaked out the first time I went to one of his work events without him, but I’ve learned a little better how to deal with it now)
Post # 9
I’ve had dinner with one of FI’s friends when Fiance couldn’t make it, but I feel like his friends would ignore me if they were in a group (at a party) and I was there. Actually, now that I think about it, I’d go if it was college friends. I was initially talking about his high school friends.
Post # 11
It really depends. I go to places and events without DH all the time, but I normally know everyone there anyway. If it would be something where I wouldn’t know too many people, I might go, but I wouldn’t be as comfortable.
Post # 12
Interesting, ladies. Glad I’m not the only non social butterfly here. 😉
Post # 13
I know all of FI’s friends pretty well so I wouldn’t think anything of stopping by. I probably wouldn’t make it a very long visit though. Long enough to say hello/congratuations/happy birthday/whatever, have a drink and mingle a bit, then take off.