Post # 1
So I am not pregnant, nor am I TTC, but as my post says I’m going to be at one of my best friend’s home birth!
I don’t have any kids, and I have never seen/been to a birth before. But she asked me to and I gladly accepted. I think birth is one of the most amazing things a woman can do! But my question for all of you, what can I expect?!
Yes I know it will be bloody, there will probably be screaming, crying, and panick at some points.
If you had a friend at your birth with you (along with your husband and midwife) what would you like of your friend to do?
I have talked with her about this, and she said that she just wants me as moral support, and just bringing positive energy to her. Which I can do for sure, and possible apply like counter pressure to her back once and awhile to give her husband a little rest. But anything else that sticks out to anyone? I want to be the best friend that I can to her and as supportive as possible, yet I just don’t want to get in the way!
Post # 3
My best friend was in the room during my hospital birth. She didn’t really “do” anything, but just having here there was awesome.
Post # 4
My friend had a home birth recently and some of the things her “helper” did included making light snacks, keeping her hydrated, adjusting the lighting in the room, keeping the cd of music (my friend created this earlier) playing… she was basically there for every little unforseen thing so her husband could stay with her.
Post # 5
A great book with some good birth assisting info is “The Birth Partner” by Penny Simkin. Check it out!
Post # 6
@KatyElle: Ditto. 🙂 Easily the most informative birthing book I’ve read.
Post # 7
Thank you for the suggestions ladies! I will have to look into that book!
Post # 8
Maybe ask her if she’d like you to take some pictures? If you’re both comfortable with it? If I had friend there with me I’d ask them to take pictures of everything. I wouldn’t want SO taking the pictures, I need him to support me. But a friend would be perfect to take some pics.
Post # 9
@doodlebugR: Oh awesome idea! I will mention this to her!
Post # 10
I had a friend, who was also my official doula, in the room. She’s had 8 children so it was really nice for her to be walking me through what I was feeling and that everything was normal and how wonderful I was doing. She was also amazing at knowing exactly where to touch me and when. Ask your friend to maybe write down some things that help her when she’s in pain… this way you have some before hand knowledge 🙂 Or she might not want to be touched at all, which is better to know before she hits transition, lol.
Post # 11
Just an update…..she had the baby on Thanksgiving!! She did so great, and she got the baby out in 2 pushes! The first push we could see the head, and then on the next one she was out and in the midwife’s hands! She had no tears or anything, according to the midwife you couldn’t even tell she just had a baby.
This inspires me to try for an all natural birth, medication free. I know that my SIL and husband would never allow me to do a home birth, but at least a medication free one would be awesome. Oh and now we aren’t TTC yet, but for the future!