(Closed) # attending more than # of seats reserved!

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
7638 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Phone them.

I am guessing they want to bring a date. If you are not allowing dates (or only inviting long term partners) you need to explain this to them.  And you can only really do this by talking, i.e. by phone.

If there are only a few single guests, you might be able to afford to be flexible. But if not, stand your ground, even if it means the person refuses to attend.

Post # 4
1736 posts
Bumble bee

You could email them and say something like (this wording has been floated around on the Bee for some time now!):

“We were thrilled to get your RSVP, unfortunately we only are able to extend the invitation to you sans guest. If this means you are not able to make it, we understand and you will be missed.”

Post # 5
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Give them a call or email, depending on their preferred mode of communication, and in a friendly voice say something like “I’m so sorry for the mix up, we can only accommodate the number of people we wrote on your invitation.”

Post # 7
7899 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Some people misread that 1 seat has been reserved as meaning 1 additional seat. You should call them and clear it up. Plus, you may find in some cases you’ve made an error and someone has a fiance or spouse or long-term partner that you really should be inviting.

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