- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
What do you do when you’re invited to a party or event and there will be other people there you don’t get along with?
Long story short: me and my fiance had a falling out with another couple about a year ago. Several months before the official “end” of our friendship, this couple had been making rude, offensive remarks to me and my fiance (then boyfriend) about EVERYTHING — our relationship, my mom’s illness, his dad’s death, my fiance’s unemployment, my job choice, how we handled our money, the fact that we weren’t living together, etc. And once we got engaged, the comments got worse, and I finally snapped. So we are no longer friends.
This is fine with me, but the problem is that this couple was a part of this larger group of friends I’ve had since, like, middle school. And they still hang out with “the group” all the time.
I’ve managed to stay friends with most of “the group” on an individual basis, but now another couple in “the group” is having a house warming party so of course this couple is invited.
Yes, there will be a ton of other people there, but this enemy couple is, like, always the center of attention.
She has the biggest diamonds, the best paying job. They have the nicest house, the cutest baby, blah, blah, BLAH, and they obnoxiously rub it in everyone’s faces. They MAKE themselves the center of attention and shun everyone who isn’t interested.
This sounds really immature and like some middle school dance, but this is how I feel. They are the popular football player and cheerleader and make fun of and exclude people they don’t “approve of” (me and my fiance).
Obviously I want to go to this party and see my other friends and congratulate the other couple on their recent homeownership, but . . . ugh.
This is really awkward for us. I don’t want to stop living my life because this couple may be around, but I don’t want to feel like I’m under a microscope with them either. I should be able to enjoy myself without worrying what they’re saying or doing behind my back!
What would you guys do?