Post # 1
My fiance and I recently found a rabbi to marry us. I’m converting also (conservative). We’re going to be meeting with him once a month until the spring. He says that we should attend services and meet people/become involved with the synagogue community. But he says that there’s no minimum amount of attendance he requires.
What do you think is appropriate? Once a month? One Kabbalat Shabbat and one Shabbat morning a month?
Post # 3
We try to go to shul at least 2 shabbat mornings a month and at least one kabbalat shabbat. Growing up I went every week and went to Jewish day school so I prayed every day there.
Post # 4
I used to have the rule that if I had no prior commitments for friday nights, I would go to services. I moved farther away so I don’t go as often, now I tend to just go for special events, which our temple actually has a lot of.
Post # 5
Honestly, I think you should try and go as often as possible. So if that is every Shabbat morning and some Friday nights, then do that. Only 2 Shabbat mornings and 1 Friday night…then yes. It will make things easier for you in the long run, as exposure breeds familiarity.
To answer your other question: currently? I go *maybe* 15 times a year; the holidays and a few Shabbat mornings thrown in for good measure. Like DVsMoom, growing up I went to services every Shabbat and also attended Jewish day school.
Post # 6
You should go as often as you feel like going. It shouldn’t feel like a chore, although it might in the beginning. The more you go however, the quicker you’ll feel accustomed to it and get to know people there. I would recommend at least twice a month to start.
Post # 7
I’m finishing up the conversion process up myself. I’m supposed to go to services two times a month, and Chever Torah at least once a month. So far I’m good on the services. I enjoy going on Friday nights, but lately I’ve not been seen on Shabbat morning. 🙁
It’s not that I don’t want to be there, but my new job has me so worn out that it just hasn’t been happening. I feel awful about it, really.