(Closed) Attention all waiting bees. Does your SO know…..

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
29 posts
  • Wedding: April 2013

Uh, no. I don’t think he’d like me a)posting stuff about our relationship, even if it’s anonymous and I try not to share ultra-personal details; b)spending my time filling my head with wedding stuff. I have a dissertation to write.

I think he just assumes I’m either shopping or looking at pictures of cats. 

Post # 18
384 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

ive told him? i dont get it? is it meant to be a secret or embarrasing? im confused.


Though now he keeps calling me bee, since i complained about a rude comment another bee said he said”what you call her?” me: “nothing” him: “no just then” me:”a bee?” He thinks its hilarious

Post # 19
308 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My Fiance knew that I lurked this board before we were engaged. But I also knew the engagement was coming. He didn’t really care or say anything about it. But he likes to hear about the threads I read sometimes.

Post # 20
4618 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Yup, he does. *sigh*

He doesn’t mind. I share threads with him from time to time. He refers to it as “my site” (as in: “are you on your site again?”)

Post # 21
79 posts
Worker bee

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@Batsygirl:  You’d think, right? I mean, he’s totally into the idea of us getting married, so it’s not as though he didn’t want to take the information in. We sat on the couch together and did nothing for three hours but narrow down engagement ring choices. WHAT DOES HE THINK THAT MEANT? Laughing

Post # 23
44 posts

My SO doesn’t know.. Im not sure how he would react lol 

Post # 24
234 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Mine knows. I was reading on it one day and he came out to see what I was doing and my kids ratted me out. “She’s on that stupid wedding site again!” Hahaha :p But we had already discussed getting married, although the kids don’t know that for certain.  I told them I read it for the articles about other things. Like pets and stuff. :p *whistles innocently* And sometimes I laugh out loud when I read funny things. Like the embarassing things people do in front of their SOs. I found a whole thread on farts. I think they humor me because I’m the only girl in the house and they think I’m mental or something 😉

Post # 25
289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Fiance knows. He likes hearing about the polls and other things. And knows I’ve got quite a few of my ideas for the wedding from here. He also likes that I have a bit of emotional support too. My family isn’t big and I have like all of one woman friend in town. He calls you guys my “girls night”

Post # 26
792 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

When I was a waiting be my OH knew I was on weddingbee, it didn’t bother him at all!

Post # 27
4693 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Oh he knows.  I was so excited when I became the listkeeper that I went and woke him up to tell him. Whenever I’m browsing on my phone he asks me if I’m “on the Weddingbee again?” and then shakes his head at me.  Haha he doesn’t care, he just doesn’t understand how I can spend so much time on here, and I’ve had to explain a few hundred times that it’s not all about weddings, there’s lots of other stuff too. He even knows about a couple Bee meet ups I’ve been to!

Post # 28
1012 posts
Bumble bee

I was tapping away on my phone one day when SO said “who are you texting?”


“oh ya whats she saying?”

*pause*”Just talking about gardening.”

“Give me that phone you are not! YOu hate gardening!!”

And then he snatched my phone, read a thread and started asking a bunch of questions.  He also was dying to know who I was since my screen name is totally random. 

He doesnt care though he just thought it was funny i was trying to hide it. haha

Post # 29
1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

He knows, but we’re in the saving stage and he already has the ring picked out so it’s not like we haven’t spoken about getting married or anything. When he found out he a first said, “Wait, there’s a whole group of women who have profiles dedicated to their wedding and talking about wedding stuff?” He could not believe it. He quickly followed it up by saying that he thought it was cute that I was so excited to get married to him.

Post # 30
286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Noo…we talk about getting married, he knows what ring he’s getting for me and I know he’s talking to my parents soon – but for some reason the idea of telling him I’m on a wedding website makes me want to go hide in a deep dark pit of shame :-/ 

There were a couple of times I really wanted his opinion on a situation/thread so I said there’s this “relationship forum” I look at sometimes and some one on there said… But never that it has anything to do with weddings! 

That said, like some other PP’s said, he’d probably just be really surprised such a thing existed and poke fun at me a bit but not really care.

Post # 31
1209 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Nope, he doesn’t have a clue. And it’s not because he’d freak out or anything but just because this is my place to vent and get advice; I don’t have to share everything little thing with him. He’s not nosy and I wouldn’t lie if he found it or asked about it. He knows I talk with other women on a forum and that’s good enough for him. 

Also, I don’t spend too much time on the Bee (yet) while we’re both home. It’s more when I’m by myself and bored or frustrated or while I’m at work. Anyway, I don’t feel like I’m hiding anything – I’m just doing my own thing. It keeps my sanity in check most days! 

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