- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
….I need advice on how to become tough. Well, brave actually.
I’d like to think I’m a lot tougher emotionally than I have been in the past, but I have a lot of serious fears about some pretty important stuff and I really need advice on how to face these fears. The most obvious answer is to “just do it” but recently I’ve gotten so freaked out about some of this stuff that I just refuse to even talk about it. I just get all panicky and hyperventilate and lock myself in my room and cry or take a nap or read until I stop thinking about it … until the subject comes up again.
I want to be able to just “woman up” and face the following:
1) Buying a house. My fiance & I are pretty sure we’re going to buy his mom’s house b/c she wants to move into an apartment. But it needs a lot of work and there’s the whole Mother-In-Law issue plus it’s a huge financial investment and I’ve never done anything like this and it PETRIFIES me … other times it really makes me excited but … then I let the fear get in the way of my excitement.
2) Fiance & I have been talking about a non-hormonal IUD as birth control for, like, a year. This would prob be the best option for us for multiple reasons, but honestly I am so terrified of getting one put in I can barely think about it. I’ve talked to dozens of people (even professionals) so I know the risks, the process, and that there’s some pain involved, but I’m so afraid of how MUCH it’s going to hurt that I can bring myself to commit to it. I’m terrified I’m going to be screaming and crying like a baby and they won’t be able to insert it. (you’re talking to a girl who’s never even had a cavity, so I really have no clue about pain or what my threshold is).
3) I have wanted a tattoo for YEARS, but I am SO afraid to get one. I’m afraid of the pain, spending the money, what if I get an infection, what if I regret it, etc, etc, etc.
UGH. I know I need to “just do it” to face these fears but … HOW do I do that???