(Closed) Attire on Invite?

posted 6 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper

If you are doing an informational enclosure card, put it there. If you are not, I think putting it at the bottom of the invite isn’t so bad. Like:

“Dinner and dancing immediately to follow. Semi-formal attire”

Not necessarily worded that way, but you get my drift.

Post # 4
Hostess
11167 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

On the bottom right hand side of the main portion of my invite (where are names are listed etc) it says “Formal Attire Requested” as per the suggestion of my wedding planner. It is smaller so it doesn’t stand out but still very clear.

 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

Traditionally, you’re not supposed to.  These days, though, I don’t think it’s really a big deal.

For what it’s worth, my Darling Husband and I went with traditional etiquette and did not include the information on our invitation.  We did put it on our website and tried to spread it by word of mouth.  We wanted it to be black-tie optional.  We were pleasantly surprised by how many people showed up in tuxes and floor-length ballgowns.  Everyone else wore very nice church attire at the least.  There were only two people who were underdressed (in jeans), and Darling Husband tells me that this family is sort of infamous for being underdressed anyway, and nothing we had done likely would have changed what they wore.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper

We put it on our inserts on an ‘info’ card

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

According to Debretts: you can put it on the right hand corner no problem 🙂

Post # 9
Hostess
11167 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@MrsLulu:  I would think it depends on your guests as well.

My FI’s family is notorious for wearing khaki’s and jeans to formal events, even Hawaiian shirts on occassion so I had to make it clear as to what was required. If you aren’t too concerned you could just note your wedding website somewhere for all the guest information, including attire.

 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

@MrsLulu:  I think you can put sunday best on.  My favourite ever dress code was “Suits and sparkles”, maybe you could put something like that?  I recently receieved a “suits and dress – you can choose which catergory you fit into” dress code, it made me giggle (wasn’t for a wedding though.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

@MrsLulu:  I can see why you’re worried about confusion, then.  I still think word of mouth could work.  How many guests and separate groups are you expecting?

If you’re still worried, like everyone else has said, it’s not a big deal these days.

Post # 14
Hostess
11167 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@MrsLulu:  Sure that might work. Again, it depends on your guests which you of course know better than I do. For me that wouldn’t have worked…they swear beach wear is formal. For you perhaps that is all it would take. 🙂

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

@MrsLulu:  Since your time and venue are so informal (as opposed to, say, a Saturday evening affair in a ballroom at the Ritz), I would probably err on the side of caution and write it in the invitation.

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