Post # 1
Hello! this is my first post here! I have a somewhat complicated wedding being planned. I plan on an elopement in November in my hometown because that is where my fiance was stationed and we want to have a party with his friends before they deploy But, I plan on having a small reception/ party in his hometown for his family.
My question is, how can I word that I want a more dressy attire? His family is the jean and t-shirt type but I would prefer for them to at least dress up a bit for this type of event. How could I word the invitation to where it is not rude or offensive but my request is spoken??
Thank you ladies =)
Post # 3
@MissS2MrsD: i have the same problem, don’t know how to get them in khakis and dresses! lol. i would appreciate some help on that matter too.
Post # 4
I want a friendly, somewhat informal invitation siince it is mainly a party, Something along the lines of ” come help us celebrate our new marriage blah blah” I’d like to throw in a “Get dressed up and come out for a night….” But I don’t know if they would actually get that. I also did not want to be so blunt and say Attire: Cocktail etc
Post # 5
There is no polite way to outright say it. If you were looking at black tie, that would be one thing, but you just want people to be business casual, which I don’t think you can politely tell them.
This should be communicated by the fanciness of the invitation, and word of mouth. Not by writing something on the invitation. You could also make a note on a wedding website, if you are having one.
Post # 6
We are wanting a reallydressy wedding, we put “formal attire – black tie optional” on our website. Hoping that means people who would show up in jeans actually put on dress pants…
Post # 7
How about it’s time to get dressed in your sunday best and join us in celebration for our recent marriage!
Post # 8
I don’t think there really is a polite way to word this, especially if it’s not a formal post-ceremony wedding reception. Telling people how to dress always get a bit iffy…
Honestly, the formality of your invitation will dictate how people dress. If you send an evite, or an email, or a handwritten invitation, then people will see it as a casual event. If you send formal invitiations, people may get dressed up more. Location will also play a part in it. If it’s a backyard, it’s less dressy; if it’s at a country club, dress up more.
Post # 9
You can’t tell adults how to dress. How they look reflects on them, not on you. The ONLY thing you can do is make the invitation the level of formality that you want the whole wedding to be.
Post # 10
@drummerbride love that! very cute and a not so obvious subliminal msg
Post # 11
I like the Sunday best but my FI’s family idea of this is jeans without holes and a shirt without a stain so I think that may not be specific enough 🙁 I like the idea of putting it on your wedding website and maybe get Fiance and Future Mother-In-Law to pass the infor word of mouth. Good luck!