(Closed) Attire request for reception

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
5 posts
  • Wedding: March 2013

@MissS2MrsD:  i have the same problem, don’t know how to get them in khakis and dresses! lol. i would appreciate some help on that matter too. 


Post # 5
3266 posts
Sugar bee

There is no polite way to outright say it.  If you were looking at black tie, that would be one thing, but you just want people to be business casual, which I don’t think you can politely tell them.

This should be communicated by the fanciness of the invitation, and word of mouth.  Not by writing something on the invitation.  You could also make a note on a wedding website, if you are having one.

Post # 6
1691 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

We are wanting a reallydressy wedding, we put “formal attire – black tie optional” on our website. Hoping that means people who would show up in jeans actually put on dress pants… 

Post # 7
2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

How about it’s time to get dressed in your sunday best and join us in celebration for our recent marriage!

Post # 8
12973 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t think there really is a polite way to word this, especially if it’s not a formal post-ceremony wedding reception. Telling people how to dress always get a bit iffy…

Honestly, the formality of your invitation will dictate how people dress.  If you send an evite, or an email, or a handwritten invitation, then people will see it as a casual event.  If you send formal invitiations, people may get dressed up more.  Location will also play a part in it.  If it’s a backyard, it’s less dressy; if it’s at a country club, dress up more.

Post # 9
2390 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

You can’t tell adults how to dress.  How they look reflects on them, not on you.  The ONLY thing you can do is make the invitation the level of formality that you want the whole wedding to be.

Post # 11
1722 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I like the Sunday best but my FI’s family idea of this is jeans without holes and a shirt without a stain so I think that may not be specific enough 🙁  I like the idea of putting it on your wedding website and maybe get Fiance and Future Mother-In-Law to pass the infor word of mouth.  Good luck!

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