Post # 1
As the search for a wedding dress and bridesmaids’ dresses begins, I’m wondering if anyone’s church set specific guidelines for attire? Are tea length dresses appropriate for the bridesmaids? What about spaghetti straps or strapless? Is it inappropriate for the bride to show her shoulders? Any bees have any experience with this? We will meet with the church in early September but I’m just curious to know what to expect.
Post # 3
It varies church to church but when I got married (during lent) there were no requirements
Post # 4
You have to ask the church specifically what the guidelines are: some are covered, some aren’t. Mine said you didn’t have to have sleeves/covering, but to use your best judgment. I was just going to go completely strapless(stil am), but since it is December and I was just a little bit nervous about it, I am getting a 3/4 sleeve lace(so its see throughlike)bolero…and a midlength veil….I kinda have a lower cut back, but I think the veil and my long hair will cover it up more. I’m not too worried though because they just said to use best judgment. I asked a question like this on here not too long ago and many of the girls(about 60%) said they were going to go strapless.. The people were saying the church is more concerned about modesty and cleavage. I luckily have lack of cleavage:)
Oh, anyways, one thing I did do: pulled up the dress high enough when I ordered it, so that it sits up high enough that it doesn’t look or feel low-cut(special ordered!!)..that way the church wont think its low cut and i wont be hiking it up….so glad i did this!
Post # 5
It varies with the church. At the Vatican, (some couples go there with their wedding attire within six months of their wedding to get their marriage blessed by the Pope) they do require you to cover your shoulders. My personal opinion is that out of respect for the Eucharist, we should show an increased sense of modesty. As such, I bought a dress from a Mormon manufacturer who sells modest gowns. The dress was beautiful! Finding attractive bridesmaid dresses that were modest was a whole other story. I did eventually find them, but they’re no longer being manufactured. We also got ripped off from the bridal shop.
I’ve been recommending to my friends to have to have their bridesmaid dresses homemaid or to order outside of the bridal industry. That’ll save your bridesmaids from alterations costs (one of my bridesmaid’s alterations were as expensive as the dress!) and you’ll have a lot more modest styles to choose from.
For the bride’s dress, if you don’t want to go out of your way with a mormon manufacturer, I’d recommend getting some sort of capped sleave for the ceremony. Be careful with them though. Most dresses today are strapless and the buttons to hold the sleeves can be uncomfortable. My sister had some beaded strapes and we ended up having to put clear tape over the straps because her veil kept getting caught on the beads.
Post # 6
here is the thread I was talking about, where you can read a lot of what people are doing/about guidelines, and even see a poll of what people are wearing…
questions about dresses in Catholic weddings and music