Post # 32
I have it easy. My Fiance doesn’t drink at all, and has never been to strip club (and tells me he has no interest in going to one). So…… I really have nothing to worry about 🙂 The worst he ever does is smoke cigars, drink too much redbull, and stay up late playing video games!
Post # 33
Me and my guy both think it’s an outdated tradition. I like going to strip clubs and would have fun going to one with him, but it just seems silly to me for that to be part of the wedding celebration. I totally respect others who do it, it’s just not for us in that particular setting.
Post # 34
I told my FH (and his friends) whenever the topic comes up that he has a couple rules: no going to jail, no ending up in the hospital, no touching, and no taking strippers out of their natural habitat (the strip club as opposed to a hotel room party). I figure I’m being pretty open and I trust him not to be stupid. I’m guessing the rules for me will probably be quite similar.
Post # 35
Keep the opinions coming, I am enjoying everyone’s perspective. I think it really highlights the diversity of views on a good marriage.
Post # 36
We have agreed that strip clubs are out of the question. It’s not just me, though; he doesn’t want me going to a strip club either. I know I’ll probably have a big blow out with Future Father-In-Law and his Bridesmaid or Best Man about this, but I’m going to stand my ground. Personally, I think it’s asking for trouble. Sending crazy and drunk guys to a titti bar to do shots and enjoy the company of naked women that are willing to do anything to make a quick buck isn’t the best situation to put yourself into just hours before walking down the aisle.
We’ve agreed to have a “getting hitched” party with our wedding party to replace the traditional bachelor/bachelorette party.
Post # 37
i’m with the other bees who’ve said they find strip clubs to just being really disrespectful to women–it makes me uncomfortable, and not out of a jealousy thing, but more out of principle.
our best man is planning a weekend trip for fi and a bunch of guys, which will really be fun for him–they’re doing a repeat version of a trip they took in college, so he’s really excited. i’ve tried to say that i really feel uncomfortable about there being strippers or strip clubs involved, but he always shuts the conversation down by saying he has no control about what does or does not happen on the trip–it’s the best man and the other guys who are planning who are in control, and he’s just going to go along with whatever they plan. i get what he’s saying, but still…
Post # 38
I dont want my guy going to a strip club, he doesnt even like them which i am sooo thankful for. Its so weird because when i was younger they never bothered me.. now the thought of some womans woohoo on him is a disgusting thought. He does not want me at a strip club either… I will be going to disney and partying at theme parks and boozing afterwards.. him not sure yet but i know it involves no strippers 😉
Post # 39
I know the FH would be furious if I had a stripper at my bachalorette, and I am no fan of double standards, so he won’t be ‘oogling tatas like boys should’ (he decided to marry me, so I’d be insulted were he to oogle anyone else).
“… and I find it inappropriate to celebrate committing your life to one woman by paying to leer at a bunch of other women”
I couldn’t agree more, it’s a two way street and disrespectful if both parties aren’t on board with the idea. If you don’t care if your husband likes to look at other women then that’s great for you, but not everyone can be so accomodating.