Post # 1
I have a question, I know what I want your answers to be but I am asking if this is fair to insist upon.
All but one of my bridesmaids are flying in for my wedding-some at the very last minute. Back in pageant days the rule was you didnt pack ANY piece of your competition wardrobe (gown, swimsuit, interview suit) No one complains in the pageant world but I think my reasons are just as important, to be quite honest, my dresses are SO different, a lost dress would mean forfeiture of Bridesmaid status. Two are coming on international flights…mind you I cant promise they will comply if I insist but should I? (Can I?)
Post # 3
Do you mean you don’t want them to CHECK their gowns? I assume you do want them to pack them and bring them to your wedding… I think it’s reasonable for you to request that in order to keep their gowns safe, they ask the flight attendants to hang them in the first class coat closet (even if they are flying coach). I do this all the time & it’s never been difficult, so I’m sure that will be fine with everyone. I don’t think you can insist that they do this upon peril of losing the honor of bridesmaid, b/c I think that’s just not really in the spirit of a wedding! Should someone lose their dress, you can decide what to do at that point, but I think to scare them into compliance is just in bad taste. I’m sure they will all happily comply if you just make a nice suggestion… Good luck!
Post # 4
Whenever I’ve had to travel with a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress, I’ve always packed it (and all the other necessary items like shoes, bras, etc) in my carry-on luggage.
I don’t see anything wrong with e-mailing your maids and suggesting that they bring their dress (and other needed items) as or in their carryons. But I agree with Miss Cricket that’s it’s in bad taste to threaten or scare them into compliance.
Post # 5
Yeah, I definitely wouldn’t compare it to a pageant competition. Your bridesmaids aren’t there for a beauty contest, they’re there to support you. Asking them to carry it on is a good idea.
Post # 6
Yeah I would just suggest carrying their dresses on, but don’t mention the pageant thing.
Post # 7
This is totally different than an evening gown. First of all we don’t know what the material is.
Secondly, can you arrange for the hotel to steam the dresses if there is a wrinkle? That is something definitely to check into.
I agree with the poster who said to hang the gown in the coat check closet or hand carry it. There is another option, to ship it first class and have it packed professionally but that will cost $$$. I was in state and national pageants so I can say that I’ve travelled all over with evening gowns and never had a glitch.
These are bridesmaid gowns. A different ballgame altogether. I wouldn’t sweat this as much at all.
Do check on the availability of resort to be able to steam clean them last minute or a nearby REFERRED and reputable cleaner.
Post # 8
Ok, so I’m a former pageant gal and I’m so confused as to what you’re asking and how you’re relating it. They are your bridesmaids, your bride support system, and your friends-pageant rules aren’t a pre-req here. Plus, these are dresses not the 10 lb pageant dresses 🙂 Yay!
It’s safest just to carry on, but I bet your bridesmaids are already ahead of the game on this one and don’t need to be sternly told. Just have the hotel steam it out when you’re there or buy a portable steamer and do them all. It’s quick, and inexpensive either way.