Post # 1
Okay after reading a ton of post about peoples negative opinion on legally married brides but having a wedding later, I felt we needed to have a space for us that is safe to post what we are doing to celebrate or commeorate our love to our Grooms/husbands. There is not judgement here and how you celebrate is entirely up to you. So I think to begin we should post our legal ceremony photos ( if any ) and then as we count down to our BIG days post our wedding photos. Whose with me? This is gonna be fun:) I will post my JOP Photo when I find the pic. The hubby hates it because he was not able to get all fresh and clean lol. He is stoked about our wedding next summer. We are so out of the ordinary it is crazy.
Post # 3
Amen. My SO and I got married earlier this year so we could go ahead and get immigration stuff sorted out, but we’re planning on having a wedding as soon as we get the visa situation done. Different choices are right for different people and there’s no reason to judge others for what they do. People on here need to chill when it comes to things that aren’t the “norm” in their eyes.
Post # 4
@foreverli14: +1, congrats on the upcoming wedding!
Post # 6
@burnabrenna: I feel you everyone has opinion here about it being so wrong to have a wedding after you get legally married. In our eyes they are both special and we spending the money so no one has any right to tell us we can’t
Post # 7
My Fiance and I have extensively discussed getting hitched at the courthouse before our October wedding. We both want the moment to be about us and have decided that if things start spiraling out of control in terms of the ceremony, we will do it ourselves alone in advance (and probably not tell anyone.) We will still do our ring exchange and have our reception in october regardless, but we may end up “eloping” for “the day.”
Post # 8
In some countries you have to do the legal stuff at a courthouse. People do that and then hold weddings. If it works there, why not here?
Post # 9
my fiancee and i are considering marrying a few weeks before the wedding so that a close family friend of his can perform the ceremony. Otherwise legally we would need a marriage commissioner to do it. plus we would prefer to get married before the wedding than have a ceremony a few weeks after the wedding. i know some people who have gone to mexico got “married” came back and still havent legally married in canada and its been over 5 months.
Post # 10
No photos from mine. We went to the courthouse. Planning something for 2014 but having trouble figuring out what I want.
Post # 11
My husband and I got married next to our christmas tree a few days before he deployed. Our wedding is in June back home in California with all our friends and families (We relocated to Oklahoma because he is stationed at an AFB here) and I get to meet my best friend who I have only known online — she’s my maid of honor and I am more excited to be able to hug her than I am for the wedding.
Post # 12
We’re discussing getting married next week at the courthouse. Our wedding is on Sept 7th. No real reason for it, we just think it would be fun and a way to make it about us.
Post # 13
I am 100% supportive of having a wedding celebration even if you are legally married already, but please let your family & friends know the truth. I found out after the fact that my sister had already been legally married for 2 years on her wedding day and was so unbelievably hurt that she didn’t tell me the truth. It will take a long time for me to get over that lie.
ETA: I only found out because I was helping her with legal paperwork and I saw her original marriage license.
Post # 14
@foreverli14: I LOVE THIS. In 2011 we were living together happily and planning our dream wedding. We went to our Pastor at our church to ask him to marry us. He said in order to marry us we would have to seperate and live apart. I was a little brainwashed so I accepted and wanted to do the right thing. I moved into my parents house. My grandmother in Florida was dying (dads mom) and my other grandmother (moms mom) was living at my parents and going through dimentia. My dad was also paying 2 mortgages on 2 homes. In the process of losing his mother, and being stressed for money the last thing I wanted to do was talk about my wedding and ask for deposits and stuff. Also all the choas at the house! After a couple months of living apart and going through all this choas we just wanted to get married so we can live together again and just move on! I felt way to guilty asking my family to put on a wedding for me. I pushed all my dreams to the side and got married in Vegas. I have never been there before that. I regretted it later on after we came home. I dreamt of my wedding day as a little girl and this wasn’t the memory i wanted of our wedding. We are having our REAL wedding April 12th, 2014. Yes I dont care what you think, REAL WEDDING. It feels like i’m planning my wedding for the first time. I picked up my vegas dress on a whim during a work break just because it fit and I needed a dress. All my friends and family are 100 percent suppportive and say this is the BEST IDEA because they know me and know that I deserve the wedding i’ve always dreamed of. YOU ALL DESERVE TAT TOO! Life is too short to have regreta and if you have the power to change something you shoujld do it if it makes you happy. Here are our vegas photos.
Post # 15
I am also supportive of a legal wedding then celebration later! My husband and I only lucked out we could have our families attend our small, quick wedding. We still would have gotten married even if they couldn’t attend, and we plan to invite out larger families to the “wedding celebration” as we’ve taken to calling it. I am all for it!
Post # 16
@CityBearBride: I totally agree with you. Everyone knows we are legally married and they want me to have the wedding of my dreams. Even if nobody knew I couldn’t live with that…feeling like I tricked them or something haha. But thats just me 🙂