(Closed) ATTN Legally married BRIDES and WEDDING at later Date.

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 272
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

Oh thank god a thread with sane people :D. I love this thread. I had my civil ceremony a week ago. In february we’re having our big wedding at Disney. We had a civil ceremony for the purpose of keeping me covered with medical benefits.

 

 

Post # 273
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@AndysCraftsNmore:  Darling Husband and I got married in Dec ’12 for similar reasons. I lost my insurance in late November and we didn’t see the point in us paying for an individual plan when I could just go on in work one.

Our families couldn’t make pretty much any date between September ’12 and late March ’13 (a big portion of my family had to work around my Aunt who works PR for a university, while most of his family is in Germany) so we settled on April 6 as our “big white wedding day”.

How it worked out for us was: As of Dec 12, 2012 he was my husband. End of Story. We didn’t try to hide or gloss over the fact that we were officially married. Come April I still had all the specialness of a white wedding but NONE of the nerves of getting legaly married at the same time.

We also made it pretty clear that the reason the timing was so odd was because of our families. “This is for you!” (it sounds odd, but it worked with our family dynamics).

Some family gave gifts in December, most waited until April.

Post # 274
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

question, our date is set for 10/5/14 for the white wedding, we have deposits and a few things paid off already- we were thinking of doing a Justice of the Peace for this year (10/5/13) just so on paper we are married so I could have the health benefits. We obviously tell everyone that we want to do this correct? I also don’t want to seam gift greedy, ect. but does doing this take away from having a bridal shower, bachelorette party, wedding gifts/ registries?? Would i then do them this year or just tell everyone if they ask(when do we give you a gift– “next year”) I feel doing this would take away from the full experience of having a white wedding, would keeping it a secret be a bad thing? UndecidedUndecidedFrownCryYellIm so lost! 

 

Post # 276
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@andysCraftsNmore – we went to Justice of the Peace in June and are having our ceremony in August… Our shower is the 20th of this month and we are both still planning on having Bach/Bachelorette parties before ceremony. We wanted to get our paper wedding done so that we could be on the same insurance & save some money.

Most people know we are married already and I have changed my name as well.

We kept the Justice of the Peace very short and sweet, we plan on having a very meaningful ceremony in August and will use that as our actual anniversary date!

Hope this helps!!

Post # 279
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Congrats to all of you ladies! =) Planning a ceremony & reception to celebrate with loved ones is so exciting. A close friend was married in a quick civil cermony as she and her highschool sweetheart were both military and wanted to ensure they weren’t stationed on opposite sides of the country again! They then planned an initimate “wedding” complete with attendants, favors, a “house” registry, and awedding dress. It was beautiful! I have an aunt who also had a quicky civil ceremony who still wishes that she had done the full ordeal when she married my uncle nearly 21 years ago! 

At the end of the day it’s your money, your marriage, and your love story. Stimulate the economy, re-new your vows, and celebrate with your family & friends if that’s what will make you over the moon. Just remember, that if at the end of the day you’re still married to the love of your life – everything is perfect. Even if most of the porcelain plates break, the transportation never shows, the DJ refuses to play any of the music you requested, & you never get to freeze a teir of the cake because the custard filling goes bad over night (all of which occurred at our wedding). 

Post # 280
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Great thread! I’m in a similar boat…getting married this weekend for visa reasons (has been very impromptu) then having our ‘real wedding’ next year where we will celebrate with family & friends!

All of us have genuine reasons for doing things the way we are doing/have done them, so try and forget about the rude/insulting comments, those making such comments have no idea about our situations. At the risk of sounding catty in return i’ll just say one thing…empathy is a much more attractive quality!

Post # 283
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Worker bee

Hello ladies!

First off thank you @foreverli14: for starting this awesome thred!

So FI and are are planning on going down to city hall on Tues morning and then Im going to work that afternoon…crazy right..Only our parents and siblings know about our plans and I dont know if I should keep it that way after the fact or shout it from the rooftop or just put in on Facebook. 

We just decided to do the civil ceremony last week and it sucks that it wont be that “special” but we are going on vacation to Germany and Paris in two weeks and he suggested that this could be our honeymoon! (Hes also a bit of a nervous nelly and doesnt want to be overseas without me having insurance and this would obviously take care of that).

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