Post # 1
As my wedding date approaches, I’m beginining to think I should hire a “day of” wedding coordinator. We’re having a small wedding (65-70ppl) and our budget is tight, but I dont want to spend my wedding day worrying about the little details. Also, my venue does come with a catering manager, so do you think a DOC is needed? Did anyone hire a day of coordinator and find her kinda useless or was she worth the extra money?
Post # 3
I didn’t hire one. Family members were there to make sure things were all set, but they didn’t have to go out of their way.
Post # 4
@xoxovmarie: I posted in another post that our church gave us a day of coordinator. Her only job, at least I thought, was to tell us when to walk and make sure people knew where to go. However, she was very pushy and tried to force her own ideas and thoughts into how my wedding “should” be.
Honestly, I did just fine without a DOC or her. If you ask the right people to help you, stuff gets taken care of. I trusted everyone, so I made out with no worries.
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
A good DOC is worth his/her weight in gold. Our approach was that our guests were there to be guests, not to help us run our own wedding. That is what we pay people for. So we happily worked a DOC into our budget, and hiring her was one of the very best decisions we made in the entire wedding process.
Post # 6
I didn’t hire one. My parents and FI’s parents and sisters helped us set up after rehearsal, and during the rehearsal, I pretty much told everyone how things were going go as far as order of walking in etc. My mom had a friend of hers who also helped with setting up, stand at the entrance and direct the BP when to walk in. I didn’t really see a use in hiring someone.
Post # 7
Mine came with the venue and she was a wonderful thing. She arranged everything and answered all the questions, and oh my goodness things went so smoothly thanks to her.
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I had hired a friend as a DOC, who had to cancel last minute, so one of my Mom’s friends stepped in. It REALLY helped having someone who had an eye on the details for me, as we went the DIY route for a lot of things.
Post # 9
@xoxovmarie: Here’s a thought I have been having lately: do you have a super-OCD organized friend that you could honor as a ‘lady-in-waiting?’ That could be the point of contact, and she could help with the flow of the entire day? You could honor her with a super nice gift at the rehearsal dinner, or $$ if she agrees.
Post # 10
@xoxovmarie: Yes, absolutely. A DOC (or in our case a full time wedding planner) is the best money you can spend towards your wedding.
The catering manager is there to protect the interests of the venue and oversee the food details. They are not there for you, to see to it that all your vendors arrive on time and meet your contractual obligations etc.
A DOC if YOUR employee for the day so to speak. They are there to ensure that everything goes according to your plan as you have dreamed up. They are the go to if you or anyone else has a question, comment, suggestion or issue leaving you to do nothing but get ready and get married.
Post # 11
Only if it’s somone good. I’ve been to weddings where the DOC was running around in a very obvious way designed to call attention to herself, presumably so that other people would notice and hire her. With the good ones, you shouldn’t know that they are there.
Post # 12
Are DOCs worth the money?YES YES YES YES YES
…YES, Easily the best money we spent. We both agreed. And DH was totally against hiring one in the first place.
Post # 13
Oh my goodness, I could not recommend a coordinator more. We had a planner who was also our DOC. Like someone said above – a good one is worth their weight in GOLD! They take ALL the stress of and if something goes wrong, someone has some questions etc, they just handle it. It really allowed me to be fully present during the day and not have to worry about details – they were all being taken care of by her.