(Closed) Attracted to FI's brother

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 137
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86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2015 - Briarwood Golf Course/ Country Club

Take a break from your Fiance.  You need to clear your head and reanalyze what you want.  One day you will see flaws in him… potentially big one’s that are deal breakers.  But clearly you need to figure out what is important to you and what you want.  I think once you make up your mind 100%, set it in stone, it might be easier.  And maybe consider not hanging with your Fiance and his brother so much, just b/c they are close doesn’t mean you have to be.  Don’t always tag along.  Clear your mind, take time and if you really still want to be with your Fiance make that commitment and add distance to his brother.  It will go away then, especially when you see his flaws when he starts dating someone else!

Post # 138
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

oh my.  That’s a crazy update.  Well. Please don’t consider it. It might sound fun and coveniemt now. But it’ll be annoying 10-2. And 50 years from now. 

 

Post # 139
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1092 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@whatdoido:  No. Leave. 

Post # 140
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@whatdoido:  Leave him. He deserves a woman who will give him 100%. Wanting to stay because of how it makes you feel good is just plain selfish.

Post # 141
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

This man is not a dog that you keep around for company.

Have some decency and leave so he can find someone who actually appreciates him.

Post # 142
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1019 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Westwood:  shoot, I wouldn’t do that to a dog!

Obviously this man has his own issues, namely low self esteem and lack of self respect, but my heart goes out to him. 

But I suppose OP might still see some use in him :/ 

Post # 143
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117 posts
Blushing bee

Ohh myy.. I don’t even know what to say :S

Post # 144
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5224 posts
Bee Keeper

@whatdoido:  What ever you do, DO NOT marry this guy. 

I understand why you have no respect for him. He has absolutely no respect for himself. That is very sad.

Post # 145
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Lol, I have a hottie for a Brother-In-Law too. He doesn’t do anything for me, but I still recognize he’s a cutie. 

If I was legit crushing on him I would stay away. Find other things to do when he is around or decline invites to mgatherings he was at. I wouldn’t try to build a relationship because that may make me like him more.

Post # 146
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1649 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Leave. He deserves better than this. And you need to figure out what you need in life from a fulfililng,  loving relationship and find someone who can meet all of that for you. The majority of people in married relationships don’t cheat. If they can do it so can you.

Post # 147
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Posting again because I read the update.

Applause for having an honest convo with him. Now make yout exit as you previoysly planned to.

Post # 148
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

@CurlyCue:  +1… Why are you still there?

Post # 149
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

This is pretty much the worst idea ever.  

Have some respect for yourself and your fiance and move on.  There’s no reason to get married if you are not in love with him, don’t find him attractive and want to sleep with other men.

Post # 150
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I agree. He’s not a dog. Or someone to get you by. The poor guy is willing to do and say anything to keep you.  Let him find true love if you really care about him. 

Post # 151
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

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