(Closed) August 21st -RSVPs and other time-y stuff?

posted 10 years ago in August 2010
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We’re date twins!

I’m not doing our Save-The-Date Cards until February and then I’m sending invitations in June. I’m going to set an RSVP date for 4 weeks before the wedding as well since, from my experiences with the engagement party RSVPs, people are f**king lazy and I’ll have to follow up with a million people.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I don’t know where your wedding is, and I think the answer to this depends on your location, but can you negotiate with one or two places now for blocking rooms for your guests so people don’t get shut out? I’ve already reserved my suite for two nights and we’re working with one of the hotels on blocking rooms. We’re doing the rehearsal dinner there the night before so that helped out in terms of them agreeing to block a bunch of rooms for us this far in advance, but it doesn’t hurt to start making inquiries now if that’s something you’re concerned about.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

April is probably too early to send out your invites, especially if you are also sending out Save-The-Date Cards. 6-8 weeks is standard. I would set your RSVP date for about two weeks before you need to get the tentative count to your caterer–that should give you enough time to get in touch with any stragglers. Ours is exactly one month before the wedding date.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I agree that April is far too early for an August wedding. That’s basically like asking people to lose your invitation and reply card and not RSVP.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I agree, I think April is too early to send out invites. If you are worried about booking hotels on time you can always send out that info with the save the dates. You can also create a wedding website, put that on the save the date and then include hotel/travel info on your website.

I got married on August 29th and we sent our invites out the second week of June and had our RSVP deadline on August 8th. That seemed to work very well with our guests.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2020

I think you open yourself to a lot of flip-flop guests when you send stuff that early and expect to know whether they are coming or not an entire month out. People that think they can make it RSVP yes, and then something comes up and they no-show. Or they sit on their RSVP card for so long that you have to track them down.

Sending out your save the dates before the holidays will give guests a nice heads-up. Consider adding in the information to book hotel room so that they can get a jump on that.

I would wait until at least mid-June before sending invites.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m having a hard time deciding on STD timing.  I wanted to send them in December, but don’t want them lost in the holiday mail (they’re postcards).  So then I thought, ok maybe early January? I’ve also heard that people sometimes put in their requests for time off at the beginning of the year, which put me back at November/December.  Another thing is that the website and e-photos aren’t done yet, and I wanted those done so people will have something to look at if they check it.

For invitation timing, I was going to send them out two months early (end of June).

Sorry, I’m not alot of help; I’m still confused myself….

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Hey bees- Im August 21 as well and I plan to send Save-The-Date Cards in January or February…over 95% of our guests will be traveling to our wedding so I think this is an appropriate amount of time. Ive heard that 6 months before the date is when you should talk to hotels about blocking rooms for your guests. Maybe you can include this information on your website (if you have one). Then we will send out our invitations between 6-8 weeks before the date. This leaves enough time to see if you could have more room for people you couldnt initially invite.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

What would people recommend for someone that wasn’t going to have Save-The-Date Cards or a website?  I think I’m relying mostly on word of mouth and early invitations but not sure just how early.  Middle May?  For a wedding that’s either August 8thish or 16th?

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My date is 8/28/2010 and I’m planning to send STD’s out by end of January, and invites out by mid-June because my reception site is near the beach and hotels get booked well in advance. I hope to set the “RSVP by” cutoff date at 8/14/2010 to leave about a week’s time for myself to follow up with any stragglers who haven’t responded yet.

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