Post # 1
for me, it’s worrying I’ve have strap tan lines… Lol! but seriously, I have been using sunscreen way more than I usually do, and my Fi and I have gone to the clothing optional beach twice trying to get an all-over tan, haha! I even wore my one and only strapless sun dress this past weekend at the Folk Fest, since I knew I was going to be in the sun all day.
otherwise, I’m slightly stressed that our bachelorette party (two brides here) will be kinda lame, but I’m hoping for the best. all our friends are so broke, so we suggested a potluck dinner at my MOH’s house, but I requested fancy drinks at least, so it would feel more special or something, and I love martinis but they’re so expensive in restaurants. Just today another friend said she’s worried she can’t come if we’re bar hopping because the cover charges would be too much. I kinda just want to be treated by my friends- it’s my bachelorette party for Pete’s sake! and it’s hard to be completely sympathetic when we’re thousands of dollars in debt over the wedding, right?
I guess the other thing that is stressing me out right now is I’m worried I won’t be able to complete my work deadlines in time for the week off I’m taking for the wedding. why is EVERYTHING happening right now?! somehow I’m get it all done. lists. and maybe a few late nights.
Post # 3
I am a BM in my sister’s wedding that is in August, and EVERYTHING stresses her out right now, I think even breathing stresses her out!
Post # 4
ive been wearing the bandeau swimsuits all summer long. and on july 4th i oddly got burnt. never turned red so i had no ideaaaa and ive NEVER been burnt before but right now my chest is peeling! DAH. pleaseeeee stop!
slightly worried about money. weve been pretty good this whole way but writing out these last 10 or so checks gives me anxiety.
bahelorette party – SAME. i have 3 bridesmaids. and wanted to bring some close friends. so we planned a night for 8 girls to have dinner, do games & sleep at a hotel & to bar hop. but no one ever arranged it. so i took matters in to my own hands and was going to pay for it all, send out invites and do it myself. the tenative dates were gunna be the 14th or 28th. well the 14th came and went without anyone doing anything. and after i said id do it – my MOH said shed take care of it. in the process of her taking care of it, i had all 3 BMs call me while i was at a wedding bitching about the plans and venting about the other BMs not doing anything to help. so i was like FORGET IT. that much stress all of you are constantly coming to me with issues this isnt supposed to be my problem! i said forget the hotel. we’ll go to dinner! but now the 28th my MOH and 1 BM cant make it. and my other BM just got pregnant. just blah. im a little sad about not having one. though they suggest to bar hop the thursday night before the wedding, but i rather not. thursday nights are kind of blah – and i feel like itll make me extra tired for friday when i cant be tired!
that turned in to a bit of a vent. so sorry!
Post # 5
Honestly, my biggest worry right now is the cake topper. Fiance stated a few months ago that he wanted a bride and groom figurine for the top of the cake, and it’s been impossible to find a set we like that’s not going to cost us $200! And I’m panicking because we’re quickly running out of time if we wanted to have custom ones made.
My only other concern is finding flower-girl dresses. Just about everything we’ve looked at is either too casual or too fancy or too young (the FGs are 10-year-old twins).
Budget-wise, we’re right on track with our original plan. We may need another $500 – $750 for last-minute incidentals but otherwise we’re good to go.
Dress is being altered (just needs a bustle, hooray!!!) and BM dresses are in transit (they may need slight alterations, but nothing major).
Venue/Catering/Photography are all good, just need to work on a few minor details.
Not too shabby! And I’m surprisingly calm…(for now)
Post # 6
I’m glad you started this topic because, while I’ve been pretty zen throughout my planning, I am really stressed out this week.
I feel you on the tan lines. I have bought a load of boob tubes.
I had a hair and make-up trial with the highly-recommended, experienced pro I hired yesterday and it was AWFUL. So I just had to find someone else for a summer wedding with just over five weeks to go. I did, and we’re doing a trial on Monday, but what if the same thing happens?
Two guests assumed the wedding was on a Saturday even though the Save The Date and invite said FRIDAY in big letters. One of them is now saying her +1 can’t make it and she’s happy to come alone as she knows people there but she can bring a friend if I really need her to and I find myself having to politely say: “Um, no, I don’t NEED you to invite someone we have never met,” it feels like I’ve gone through the looking glass.
One of my bridesmaids and my flower girl (her daughter) are now travelling for two hours on the wedding morning instead of staying over the night before. She will miss the evening with me and the BMs, and I am worried she will be late. What if there’s bad traffic or her car breaks down or something? I always said I didn’t want anyone in the bridal party travelling on the day because I would worry. I have paid for hotel rooms so it doesn’t cost them to stay. I am really upset with her but her reasons are decent so I will just have to suck it up.
Lastly, one of my bridesmaids has offered to let a friend of ours who is not in the bridal party get ready in her hotel room. In the hotel where I am staying with my parents and BMs before the wedding. I don’t like the idea of someone who is not in the bridal party being with us and I am worried she will want to come in and see me – she is kind of nosy.
Post # 7
@Moomin: my personal attendant (who i only met 1 time… shes a close friend of FI but it freaks me out how obsessed with me she seems to be. she declared herself the PA. she lives out of state and flew in for my shower… thats when we first met! ANYWAY… she invited herself, her date WHO IS A BOY (i say this because WHY would i want a boy in my room… and another friend of hers to stay in our room! the other friend that she invited… was invited to the wedding, so its fine that shes here in town. but REALLY?
8 girls + my mom in my hotel the night before the wedding. mind you, i only have 3 BMs! there should only be 4 of us and maybe my mom in the hotel! AY YI YI. ive expressed many texts and fb messages to the 2 out of town girls about getting a hotel room of their own. and her reply was “i rather be with the beautiful bride than not! i can sleep on the floor. itll be an adventure!”
totally stressing about 8 people in my bridal suite the night before the wedding and morning of to get ready. UN-NECESSARY. woof.
Post # 8
@wifegoodman: oh man. Leave them all and run off to stay somewhere else?!
Post # 9
OUR DJ NOT CALLING US BACK! ahhh
FG dress, veil, my alterations…blah
Post # 10
Just found out the person making our cake will no longer be in the vicinity of our wedding to make the cake (are you freaking kidding me?!) gotta bust out those cake decorating skills of days gone by!!! Eeek
Post # 11
My wedding ring! Would you believe I still don’t have one?
Post # 12
@Moomin: Ugh me too on the hair and makeup trial. Found a new makeup artist that I lovvve but have a trial set up for next weekend with hair (more concerned about hair).
Other than that, our planner at the venue just quit and thus far I have not been at all impressed by her replacement. I’m really, really stressed out about that.
Post # 13
@kate02121: the whole MUA has shaken me a lot – that someone who’s meant to be a pro could just ignore my wishes, has made me a bit insecure about everything else.
Argh at the planner situ. Is there anyone else there you can speak to? Is it worth hiring a DOC?
Post # 14
@Moomin: About the stylists, I agree 100%. I was in the same situation as you, well recommended place and then just….the worst trial ever. I’m really nervous for my next hair trial, when before I was just so relaxed about it because, hey, they’re professionals right? Plus the added expenses…ugh. Good luck to you in your next trials.
We have a meeting with a DOC tomorrow evening…hopefully that will work out. And we are meeting with the official replacement at the venue on Saturday. I’m bringing every little piece of documentation and conversation I’ve had and hoping I just got a bad initial impression, and that this person will be great moving forward. Surprisingly keeping my cool!
Post # 15
@mtnhoney: I am not stressed at all, I m sure it will come! And on the martini cmment…ya..wth is with that??? Why are they so expensive..its 2 oz of vodka or gin, like WTF grrrrrr
We found a place near us that does a cheap martini night on the water after 7…so we go there to enjoy a 3 dollar martini from an 8 dollar reg price!
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