Post # 1
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Bumble bee
Fiance and I have been engaged for months, however we didnt announce it til yesterday due to so many people on his side and my side getting engaged, getting married and going through divorces.So after months of waiting so we dont steal anyones thunder we announced to the rest of the family and our friends our engagement on FB. We are a military family and with most of our friends spread out over the country and deployed we thought it was a good way to get in touch with everyone. Of course his parents knew as did my mother and siblings.
FI’s niece married just two weeks ago, his cousin two weeks before that, my sister a month ago, and our friends wedding was in between all that. So we held our tongues so that we wouldnt step on anyones toes.
.NOW THE CRAPPY PART.
My 55 year old aunt who just last week called me a muslim loving socialist announced her engagement the same day. SHE ISNT EVEN DATING ANYONE!!!! I asked her daughter whats with that, and she said her mother doesnt like anyone to have any attention and she is still mad at me cause I hid her feed on FB because of all the political comments she made and what she said to me.
So she decided to get engaged to herself and even went out last night and bought a ring and posted a pic of it on facebook. She lives in another state so the family doesnt see her that often or know if she is dating or not, but now she is being congratulated along with me on our engagements. Everyone keeps mentioning that its sso wonderful that we share an actual engagement date.
Its crap. I know it sounds selfish but I have never shared anything major in my life and this one time, she has to do this out of spite.
I know its not rational but its childish for her to do this and because everyone keeps mentioning two brides, it bothers me.
Sorry for the rant.
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
@TexasSpringBride: Your aunt sounds crazy. I’d just ignore someone like that. I’m sure she’s not stealing your thunder aside from people worrying about her mental health.
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
I don’t really believe in waiting to get engaged/annouce engagements because of other people… but if she really invented a relationship just to steal your thunder, that’s ridiculous and I’m sorry you’re dealing with it. Ultimately, it’s kinda funny and REALLY pathetic, though… don’t you just feel sorry for her that she’s that damn lonely and crazy? She’ll be the one who looks odd in the end, when there’s no wedding, and one has ever met or even seen the guy. Its unfortunte that family would do this, but just feel sorry for her, ignore her, and enjoy your engagement.
Post # 5
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Helper bee
She got engaged to herself? And people are taking that seriously? What? Huh?
So many questions. Congratulations on your REAL engagement. Your aunt’s nonsense will fade away.
Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
haha she got engaged to herself. she sounds insane. try to ignore her
Post # 7
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Blushing bee
Congrats on your engagement!!!
I’m sorry to say it like that, but your aunt sound like she has some emotional/mental issues. If people are taking her seriously, oh well. You know she is “crazy”. How sad that she is so immature, attention-seeking, and bratty at her age.
Try your best not to get wrapped up in her drama.
Post # 8
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Helper bee
How does she know you hid her news feed? Facebook doesn’t “tell” those kind of changes…. so the only way she would know is if you told her, or posted that you made an update. You can unfriend someone, or block them…. and facebook doesn’t announce that kind of thing……
I’m not really sure why you are still friends with her on FB anyway, as you indicate she has called you names. Why stay FB friends at all with someone who creates drama?
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
You know I wanted to announce my engagement months ago, but I kept reading the boards about being considerate of others. For the last 3 months we have been to a wedding almost every week amongst our close friends and family. Then last week my cousin announced her engagement and this will be her third wedding. So Fiance said you know we have waited on everyone else.
Lets just get it out there because soon we need to start sending save the dates to people, especially if we are trying to marry in the spring. Luckily not a huge affair so not much planning to do.
I was just trying to be considerate of everyone and now the one time I should be happy, Im angry that she is being so childish.
Post # 10
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Honey bee
Yeah. She just sounds crazy, literally, and I feel sorry for her. People will realize she’s not actually engaged sooner rather than later. Carry on & do your best to ignore her… she sounds like a troubled person.
Post # 11
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Sugar bee
Wow… she’s craaaazy.
They’ll see through it, relax. Start posting public messages on her wall asking when her wedding date is (since you don’t want to plan yours too close), what colors she’s using (since you don’t want to copy!), what sort of flowers and invitations she’s considering. I wonder if she’ll plan a whole fake wedding?!
I mean, really…
In any case, congratulations!! Just keep your plans to yourself. Check with your close family members when you set a date, and keep it to yourself until you send save-the-dates or invitations.
Post # 12
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Bumble bee
@3xaCharm: Her daughter told her that I hid it because she was being offensive.
I would love to block her completely but she is my mothers only living sister. Her other sister passed away last year along with two of my mothers brothers.
My mother says to just ignore her. Any other time I can, but considering that her own daughter said she did this out of spite, really hurts me.
Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
She didn’t steal the engagement date because she’s not engaged. I’d be super sweet to her.
“OMG I’m so excited for you! Did anyone take a pic of the proposal? Where’s a picture of the mystery man???”
Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
“Ooooh where did he get the ring from? How long have you guys been dating? I wanna see a picture of you two together! How did he propose? I’m just so excited for you!”
Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
Why is it that everyone has a crazy aunt?!
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
Everyone is already doing that because this is a shock to them. Nothing from her. She just keeps posting pics of the ring and saying she is engaged. One of her friends commented she didnt even know she was dating someone let alone serious enough to get engaged.
Im thinking she is gonna say she is engaged to Jacque,,,her dog.
