(Closed) Aunt stole my engagement…angry rip rant

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

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@TexasSpringBride:  Wow, can I FB friend her just to look at the wacky posts and pics?  :-p

Post # 34
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I have to agree with the others who are saying to just ignore her.  If your aunt wants to act this ridiculous and crazy, don’t feed into her attention-seeking behavior–just say “congratulations” and then leave the whole thing alone.  Focus on your own (real) wedding and everyone will eventually realize that your aunt was only making hers up, and then she will have to deal with the consequences (such as public embarrassment) for her lies while you get to enjoy your wedding.  I wouldn’t make fun of her or join in on the shaming that’s going to happen because I wouldn’t want any hand in anything that could possibly make her worse than she already is.

You know that the woman MUST have something seriously wrong with her for her to do what she’s doing.  You mentioned that she’s lost all her siblings besides your mother.  Perhaps that caused her to snap.  My mother-in-law also lost all four of her brothers (not to mention her daughter and grandson as well), and believe me, it’s HARD on a person.  She doesn’t behave like your aunt (thankfully) but she has also never dealt with the loss of her family in a healthy way and I can see how it affects her.  I’m in no way defending what your aunt is doing, I’m just saying that there might be mental health issues at work here.  Quite frankly, I feel sorry for the both of you–sorry for you for having to put up with her and sorry for her because what she’s doing is just so incredibly pathetic… lying is one thing, but actually going to the extreme of buying herself a ring?  There’s something wrong with this poor woman for sure.

By the way, I do have a mentally ill aunt myself, and while she’s never done anything like what your aunt is doing, she’s extreme in other ways (ie. she calls my grandmother every day threatening to commit suicide).  Sure, there are times when I’d like to get mad at her, especially for the way she upsets my poor grandmother, but it’s a mental health issue and it’s not going to change, so I can’t change her behavior, I can only change my reaction to it.  I don’t let her upset me and I just continue treating her the same way I always did.

Post # 35
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

lmao wow.

Girl, just laugh it off. She is obviously a sad, bitter old woman who needs mental help. Like 

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@LadyBunnylot said, once people realize that she’s not actually engaged/dating anyone/bought a ring for herself/bought a dress…they’re going to think she’s fucking crazy.

Post # 37
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Holy shit, she’s cray-cray.

Sorry this happened and you feel like you lost some of the spotlight, but dang, this makes for some good entertainment, yes? I’d want to delete and block her for her low move, but I’d be tempted to keep her on just to see what other shenanigans she comes up with! A ring, and now a dress?! And no man. Crazy.

Just enjoy your special time. Everyone will know you’re the glowing bride and your aunt is off her rocker!

Post # 38
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@vorpalette:  once people realize that she’s not actually engaged/dating anyone/bought a ring for herself/bought a dress…they’re going to think she’s fucking crazy.

+1000000

And family or not, I’d delete her. She’s obviously a toxic person. Who needs that in their lives?

Post # 39
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@peachacid:  lol There really is one in every family!

Post # 41
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I am sorry, but I think you should find this hysterical. She is beyond crazy! You have a loving relationship and are engaged to an ACTUAL person! 

She is so bat$hit crazy that she has to BUY HERSELF a ring and makeup a relationship because of you! 

What she MIGHT do is invite people to her “wedding” on the same day as you…. so I would try to figure out how to avoid that. You should just tell the family (or have her daughter tell them) what is going on. 

And DO NOT invite her to your wedding! 

Congrats on being engaged to a real person! I hope you have an AMAZING time planning your real wedding! 😉 

Post # 42
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think it was way nice and mature of you to be conscientious of other peoples’ engagements with the announcement of your own. Your aunt, on the other hand…is a steaming garbage can of CRAZY. I actually hid quite a few people’s feeds on FB due to the nature of their political posts, so I feel you there.

Post # 44
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@TexasSpringBride:  Whoops, my apologies for misreading that.  She has lost siblings, though, and it sounds like she really hasn’t dealt with the losses very well at all.  🙁  Her behavior now isn’t just childish–it’s totally crazy.  I really think she needs help. 

Post # 45
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

You cannot logic with crazy. You just can’t. My advice? You’ll be happier not paying attention to ANYTHING she does, because it’s not contributing to the happy vibes you deserve right now.

But for fun, let’s imagine hilariously passive aggressive ways to deal with her antics:

1) Congatulate her on her upcoming nuptuals, musing how you didn’t expect for her own newfound love of muslims to bring about a wedding so soon.

2) Ask her if it’s a shot-gun wedding, and when the baby is due.

3) Tell her you can’t wait to go to her wedding. Ask her every week when it is. She’ll eventually have to tell you it’s a fake.

4) Create a fake facebook profile pretending to be her fiancee. Make him the tooth-missingest, facial-hairiest, unkemptest person ever. Have this composite partner complain publicly about his poo-nuggets, and publicly thank her for lovingly removing them all by hand.

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