(Closed) Aunt/Godmother of the groom…Advice/vent

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

i am tempted to say just let these people buy you a set of china. can you register at a store that also sells something you may need for a future house? you can then return the china for store credit (provided none of these people will expect to be invited over for lavish meals)…

normally i’d never suggest something like this, but this lady doesnt sound like she is ever going to get it…

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would just pick something, tools for the house whatever. Some people of the older generation are so hung up on proper ettiquette as it sounds like she is. So just pick out something for the house and be done with it. Why spend your time on this?

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Are you planning on having kids?  Have them start an “education fund” with savings bonds. If not, of if you’re not, is there any kind of crazy fun kitchen gadget that you would want but would never buy for yourself?  A panini press?  Soda maker?  Cake decorating course?  Stand mixer?  Asparagus steamer?  Turkey roasting pan?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

You are going to need something for your house and some people like getting you something tangible that you can have for years to come. I would look around and try to find something maybe like a new bedspread or side table or some piece that you can have in your house. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would tell your aunt that you’re saving for a new refrigerator/mattress/down payment and that’s the gift you’d really like. I don’t know why she doesn’t understand why you don’t want gifts…

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Ooh! Or maybe ask her to pay for your wedding cake/limo or something for the wedding. That would be a useful gift?

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Since Fiance likes to cook, do you have a stand mixer/ food processor/ good toaster oven? 

Can you replace your towels/bed linens? Mattress? New TV?

Also like PinkMagnolia’s idea about paying for the cake, or something else wedding-related.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Bed Bath and Beyond has some pretty decorative stuff – paintings, metal wall decor, sets of frames. Maybe that is something you could use?

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

We like to grill out a lot, so I’d ask for a nice gas grill or a smoker and all of the tools that go with them.

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