Post # 1
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Wannabee
My boyfriend of 6 years and I finally got engaged this past week. I was very excited and promptly called my immediate family and then the more relevant aunts and cousin who I thought would want to know. I just found out today that my favorite aunt felt that calling to inform everyone was tacky.
Since I’m new to all this and have always been very shy I don’t know if I made some kind of etiquette mistake. My other aunts seemed genuinely happy that I called them personally (I live out of state so in-person was out of the question, we won’t be in town till after the holidays at which time I figured we would make the rounds to visit everyone in person).
I could use some advice on where I may have gone wrong. Should I ask the aunt directly?
I really just wish my mother hadn’t told me about it at all, but she’s not the type to get upset about things like this the way I am.
During the phone call with my aunt I chit chatted about her grandkids, I asked for addresses for her kids for the mailed announcements, and generally had a good chat.
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
Um I never heard of that before. I don’t even know how it could be seen as tacky, isn’t it supposed to be a nice gesture to include your family in big moments? At least thats what I thought. Honestly if it were me I would just let it go, if she happens to bring it up I would just say that you were excited and wanted to share your good news with all your family.
Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
I would just ignore her. Let the rude wedding comments begin! There’s nothing tacky about telling people you love over the phone. She should be glad you bothered to even call her imo
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
Really? Would she prefer it if you made a FB annoucement? You had to call to get her kids info and to let her know. I think your aunt is rude for telling your mom that your actions were tacky.
Post # 6
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Helper bee
No you did the right thing. I called most of my family and told some of the others in person in Christmas (since I got engaged Christmas eve).
My grandma was hurt when my cousin announced on Facebook instead of calling her still I made all my office calls first. Everyone was happy and I don’t see how that could be tacky or rude
Post # 7
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Busy bee
You did nothing wrong. And since you’re receiving secondhand info on what your aunt said, and she didn’t mention it when you spoke, I’d just let it go.
Post # 8
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Busy bee
Fun fact – no matter what decisions you make for your wedding, someone will find them tacky. Personally, I think calling people was a classy and sweet move.