Post # 1
My photographer has posted some sneak peek photos (they look great! I’m so happy). The thing is- I have an aunt/uncle who were not invited to my wedding- or even told I was engaged.
The uncle was my fathers brother- the two did something completely disrespectful to my father and mother years before they passed. No apologies after it happened and we went our seperate ways- no contact- and I was fine with that. When my parents passed- I thought I should let them know. They came to the funeral and started trash talking about them- to me. I lost my shit. And again went back to no contact- and my life was better for it. I didn’t miss them or think of them. And I didnt even think for a second to include them in guest list.
My photographer- now friend- posted three sneak peek photos on her FB page and her website. I kid you not within 5 mins of them being posted- my aunt and uncle were making comments on them. I’m a horrible person, I should be ashamed of myself, my dress, venue, flowers, groom (!) were disgusting. They should have been included because they were my last link to my father. Over 20 comments- before I even saw the photos.
I wrote “This is why you were not invited” which resulted in a lot of ‘likes’ and comments from others who follow the photographers page- bashing my aunt and uncle. The whole thing has resulted in a gong show.
I deleted my comment and have been resisting the urge to see if anything else has been written under those photos. I’m trying to contact my photographer/friend about what’s happening but she’s not answering her phone. Sadly- I think the best course is just for her to delete the whole post- which is sad- those three shots were absoluting stunning- I basically climbed a mountain in a dress for one of them haha!
I’m just sad this poison has leaked over and affected my friend. I wanted her to be able to promote her business and now she has these two crazies commenting on her photos saying how disgusting everything looks. And I don’t want to lose her as friend over this either.
Any advice on where to go from here? Sorry- it was mostly a vent and a “WTF?” moment this morning.
Post # 2
She can just delete thier comments and block them. She doesn’t need to delete the post.
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2017 - Nepal
WOW, I’m sorry, that is really shitty. Can she delete their comments and block them from her page?
On a side note, I would love to see these photos!
Post # 4
my advice? Choose 2 close and assertive friends to be on crazy aunt and uncle watch at your wedding nd prepared to escort them back out if they show up uninvited, unfortunately. I’ve been gong-show-patrol at a friend’s wedding before, I’m sure someone will be willing to do it, especially if they’e already shown the world that your concerns are not unfounded.
Post # 5
What a horrible situation. It sounds like you’ve done the right thing by cutting your aunt and uncle out of your life, and they continue to prove it was the right thing.
I think you just apologize to your friend. If she wants to leave the page up she could delete the current post, block them, and then re-post. However, they sound crazy enough that they might create other profiles and keep doing this.
You really shouldn’t feel badly. You can’t control your family. I would just apologize and work with her to find a solution. If she is really a friend she will feel badly you are in the position, not be sad that the she can’t post 3 pictures for her business.
Post # 6
The wedding has already happened 🙂 They didn’t even know I was engaged- they’re trash talking the wedding photos.
I hope she can just delete the comments and block them. It’s just a pain in the a– and I’m sorry she has to put up with this on her page. I just haven’t been able to contact her to let her know the crap show that’s happening.
I’d love to show the photos- just no way with my face being shown… and I don’t know how to fuzz out my and DHs face :(- techno stupid- right here
Post # 7
Wow, could they be more desperate to try and bring you down? That’s pathetic. Consider the source here. These are two huge, dedicated assholes. Those opinions hold no weight. Block delete forget and go on living a good life.
Post # 8
your friend should block them so they can’t comment on her photos. how did they find them anyway? how did they know what photographer you used?
i am assuming you were tagged in the photos. but if you are not friends with your aunt/uncle, they wouldn’t pop up on their page. i’m still baffled how they found them.
Post # 9
my cousin- their daughter- was FB friends with me. I never had an issue with her- so we remained “FB” friends. I never posted anything on FB about wedding, planning, engaged. So she didn’t know either. She must have told them when I was tagged. I’ve since deleted her- like this morning when I first saw this.
Post # 10
As your photographer to delete the comments and block them from the page.
Post # 11
She can block them from her page and delete the comments. No biggie. I’m sorry though that it happened.
Post # 12
Have her delete the comments and block the people. She can then keep it up.
Post # 13
I’m sorry these jerks are doing this, bee. But the truth is they look like total losers, no one who’s worth a thought will give their accusations any weight because who behaves like this.
why did you delete your comment? You have nothing to be afraid of. They’re trying to intimidate you because you’re not letting their nastiness control you.
Hopefully the photog can block them when she sees what’s going on but really, they’re making themselves look like a$$holes.
Post # 14
don’t worry about it. Most businesses that have a web presence nowaday deal with the occasional troll. Deleting comments and blocking trolls is part of the upkeep necessary for a web presence.
Im sorry your family is so terrible
Post # 15
- Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club
Wow. Firstly, I am so sorry you are experiencing this! What an awful way for them to express their feelings. The photographer, should be able to delete all of the comments and block them from seeing the page. Perhaps you should put them on your blocked list too.