(Closed) Autism..

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1510 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My honest opinion, I think it might look at little weird if it was just in a program and she didnt walk down the aisle. Could someone walk her down the aisle and maybe have a reserved seat for her in the front row? Maybe you could find another usher and have your brother walk her?

Post # 5
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1510 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@twiny2005: Excuse my previous post. I apologize. Thinking about it…it would be a sweet idea. It means alot to you, I say go for it.  If she couldnt walk Im sure your friends and family would understand why she isnt able to, and the fact that your still thinking of her and not excluding her is a touching idea. 🙂

Post # 6
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822 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I think it is a lovely idea.  Everyone at your wedding is obviously important to you so they should know you and your family well, and understand why she is not standing up.

Post # 7
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1365 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t think it’s weird in the slightest. But then, bridal parties are not so huge over here.

Post # 8
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2195 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

You should do whatever YOU feel like you need to do to include your sister. She’s your sister, so the people who matter at your ceremony will know, and I think I would be really touched to see her included at least on the program. You’re obviously a really sweet sister!

Post # 9
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1081 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

If it is a small ceremony, I’d guess that everyone attending will know your older sister has autism, and would very much understand if she did not feel comfortable walking. I think it is a fantastic idea to include her in the programs, and to include her as a bridesmaid. I don’t think it would be weird at all! Perhaps she could take a seat in the front row and maybe stand up for a brief moment while you or the officiant thank her for her love and support.. Although I understand the spotlight can be very aversive, so she may not even need to stand up.

I think it’s wonderful to include her, and wouldn’t look weird in the slightest. 🙂

Post # 10
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1042 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Think of who will be attending your wedding; your closest family and friends. All of them will hopefully understand why your sister is not walking down the aisle. Sometimes it’s easy to get caught up in how things look, that wer forget that we aren’t inviting random stangers to our wedding, but people who love us.

I think the idea is great, and sounds like a perfect way to incorperate your sister into the wedding.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Can you have her already siting up at the front? Maybe she and the groomsman can already be sitting up there or even the entire wedding party apart from you? Lovely that you are including her 🙂

Post # 12
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565 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t know where your sister is on the spectrum or how socially averse she is, but have you tried actually talking to and asking her what she thinks?

If she doesn’t want to walk down the aisle, though, I don’t see anything wrong with what you suggest doing.

Post # 13
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382 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

YOUR wedding, YOUR call!  Whatever makes her the most comfortable, and makes you the most comfortable is the best bet.  Weddings are about the couple, and I think it’s a great way to individualize your wedding, and make it specific to you.

Happy planning!

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