Post # 1
What’s the average age for marriage in your demographic area? And did the age you got married correlate with the averages of the people around you or were you younger/older than what is considered to be average where you live?
For myself, I was amongst the cluster of those who married between the ages of 21-24, and while that’s not average for California, it’s not uncommon where I live to get married young.
Post # 2
In my social circles (in a mid-sized Canadian city, non-religious, university educated) the average age for marriage would probably be very late 20’s/early 30’s. We got married pretty early in comparison to most couples our age (for our area), we were both 24.
Post # 3
I’d say most of my circle got married in their late 20s-early 30s. But we had the group the got married in their early 20s and remarried closer to 40.
I live in a big city and people definitely get married and have kids when they are older (most of my friends had their first kid at 40) or aren’t married at all.
Post # 4
I live in NYC. Everyone I know who’s gotten married here has done so in their 30’s. Funnily enough everyone that has moved out of state and gotten marreid did so in their mid to late 20s.
Post # 5
I live in a major southern US city. According to statistics, 26 for women, 28 for men. Late to early 30s appears to be reserved for having kids. Indeed, mid-20s was the age 80% of the people I know got married, although there are a few of us approaching their 30s unmarried.
Post # 6
Grew up in southern Idaho, currently live in Utah. Very early 20s is the norm around here. I got married at 26 and most of my friends/acquaintances were already married and on kid number 2 or 3 by then.
Post # 7
I checked Google, and it says ~27 for women and ~28 for men in the state I live in. We were 29 (me) and 40 (him). The state I’m from, it’s around a year later for both men and women. We were the last in our circle to get married. Interestingly, we’ll likely be among the first to have kids! It seems like it’s pretty common for the people we know to get married youngish and then wait multiple years for kids.
Post # 8
aquam94 : 30-35 in my social circle
Post # 9
NYC here, those in my social circle that have gotten married are in their early 30’s. I think most people I know want to be established, as well as just not in a rush to get married? No one that I know would even think about marriage in their early 20’s.
Post # 10
28 to 35 here in Auckland New Zealand
Post # 11
Very interesting to see the varied responses.
I should add that I currently live in a suburban area in NorCal, where people are all college-educated but also choose to get married during college or just right after. Having kids, even if you get married young, tend to be closer to 30s.
Post # 12
Grew up on the west coast of the us, now living on the East coast. Just got married at 35. 3 of my husbands college guy friends just got engaged this year and all of those relationships have been 3-4 years long before engagement. The women they are marrying are between 30-34. And the men are 34-36 years old. My coworker is 28 and 4 of her college girlfriends got married in the last year. All those women were around 28-32. The guys they married range from 30-35.
It seems like it comes in waves which is strange. None of my husbands guy friends knew each other was proposing. But now suddenly 3 of them all proposed within 4 months of each other and all of them ( again not on purpose) are getting married 1 week apart in May lol. His guy friends did have a mini wave 4 years ago where 2 of his friends got married younger. Even though those two got married much earlier, both couples are still early on in having kids. 1 is just now about to have their first baby and the other couple has a 3 year old and trying for another.
I would say the biggest trend I see from all that is, if a man doesn’t find a woman in college or soon after that he wants to marry, he gets throw in into the “pickier” group of men who then don’t end up marrying until 34-38. It’s almost as if they graduate college and see this whole dating world open up Infront if them and decide they have plenty of time to look around and date and are in no rush to settle down. But if they graduate college with a girlfriend they tend to get married sooner and don’t get sucked into the dating world and decide they want to take their time.
Post # 13
aquam94 : I am from Northern California and of all the people I went to highschool with, most of them are only just now marrying at 33-35. Only a handful got married right after college. There are still tons of them who aren’t married at all.
Post # 14
UK – late 20s-early 30s, although quite a lot of people just aren’t married.
Post # 15
We live in NYC, which has one of the latest average ages for marriage, like 31–33. But our friends and family seem do it around 27–29, and so will we. My sister got married at 25 and she was an outlier.