Post # 1
I’m getting married next month and am the last of my friends in my social circle to do so.
I’m feeling a bit old (I’m 31) and I’m sure it’s because I feel behind my friends. Two of my friends are pregnant and we won’t be trying until 6 months from now, as I want to spend some time together as just a married couple. I am a planner and never thought this is where I would be in my life and I have trouble letting the past go sometimes.
All my friends have gotten married in their late 20s (27, 28, 29) however I have noticed lately I am hearing of people in my area getting married in their early/mid 20s. My one cousin is getting married next year at age 23. She is 22 now and will graduate from college in May; her Fiance proposed on Valentine’s Day. They both have good jobs lined up after graduation. I have another cousin who is 24 and getting married this September. My FI’s cousin is 25 and is getting married this December.
I also have a couple of coworkers whose kids are getting married around that same age. I’m not sure if this is just a trend in my area or are people going back to getting married younger?
Just curious as to what you are seeing….
Post # 2
If you look at national statistics, people in general are getting married and having kids later. In big cities (NYC, DC, etc), people tend to do these things later. In smaller towns/rural areas, married/kids earlier is still normal.
I got married at 38. My BFF is getting married a month before she turns 43. My cousin got married at 19.
So you do you. Live your life how it makes you happy. Don’t compare yourself to other people.
Post # 3
I’m 22 and although I happen to be getting married next year, I would say I’m definitely not the norm for my age group at least where I live and who is in my social circle. Although it is different for everyone I’m sure, I’d bet on saying that most people I see getting married are early thirties and most people my age are having kids and NOT getting hitched
Post # 4
I think late 20’s (I’ll be 28) is the norm in my circle though a couple of brides got married before that. All of us have 4 year degrees so I think we follow the trend of late 20’s since my friends spent their mid 20’s paying off loans, moving out, getting careers established, etc before thinking much about marriage/kids.
Post # 5
Depends where. Where I live (not the US), almost nobody gets married before the age of 30. I’m 29, and of my closest girlfriends, only one is engaged and gets married in a few months (she’s 32), while the rest is either single or not yet engaged. I think our national average is about 32 for women, 33 for men.
Post # 6
sunnierdaysahead2 : I was on the young side at 22. but most of my friends are 25-28 when they get married.
Post # 7
Most people I know from my hometown are getting married early to mid 20s with the exception being the people who moved to bigger cities. I’ve lived in a few big cities (and still live in one now) and most of my friends are getting married in their late 20s to mid 30s. I think goals play such a big part in this. The people I know who aspired to have big families and be stay at home moms married as soon as they could. The people I know that have big career goals married later.
Post # 8
I’m going to get married next year, about two months after my 30th birthday. Almost all of my friends got married at 26-28 though I know a few who got married younger (right out of college). To contrast, almost none of my SOs friends are married. They’ve all been in serious relationships and I suspect we will have a lot of weddings for them in the next few years. That would put them more in the 30-32 range.
I think this is highly dependent on your social group and what is deemed appropriate. The weddings we’ve been to have definitely come in clumps. The same thing is happening with my friends now with babies.
Post # 9
Totally depends on where you live. I lived in Idaho for a year after college and I was a total odd ball out there. Most people my age were married. The guys I dated out there were older and divorced, lol. We went to a bridal show to support a friend who was modeling dresses, and they didn’t have champagne because most of the brides weren’t 21.. TOTALLY DIFFERENT! lol
I’ll be 29 in 2 weeks and I feel like I’m the last of my friends to get married. But a lot of my coworkers that are my age and are single. I live in Cleveland. I think it just depends on what your goals are in life. If I had moved to a bigger city like I originally wanted, then I don’t think I would have settled down until I was at least 35.
Post # 10
I am 34 getting married! I was engaged at 30, but that didn’t last. Most of my friends were somewhere between 26-30 when they go married. But two of my friends who were married in their 20s are either divorced or getting a divorce. There is no right or wrong answer. I am not crazy about being an older mom if we have kids, but it’s how life happened. Fiance and I joke we wish we had met at 30, so you’re doing just fine.
Post # 11
I wonder if there are any statistics on whether people younger to get engaged are also more likely to call off weddings (even if for no other reason that younger people tend to have longer engagements). I married at 32. Almost all of my social circle hasn’t gotten married yet, but it seems like the bulk of people my age from my high school have married, whether or not they’re still together.
The old statistic that people who marry later are less likely to get divorced actually has a cap–around age 32 is the lowest divorce rate. Not at all why I got married when I did, but it was a nice reassurance when I felt like everyone else got married before me (looking at my high school peers) or wasn’t getting married yet (looking at my social circle).
Post # 12
In Denver (mix of people from all over), the marrying age in our friend group is late 20’s/early 30’s.
One engaged couple, they are 28, but they won’t be getting married for at least another year, so probably around 30 years old.
Same for the other already engaged couple. Guy is already 30, I think, and they plan to marry late 2018.
SO and I will be engaged in a few months, planning wedding for when he’ll be 1 month shy of 30, and I’ll be almost 34.
We have tons of other couple friends who have been dating for years and are 28/29 and not even engaged yet.
Post # 13
I was married at 21, and although I wouldn’t change a thing I can say it definitely not the “norm” for people my age. Out of my graduating class of 250 (in 2012), I think only 5 of us are married (and 2 of them are to each other). Another few engaged.
Post # 14
I will be getting married in two months at age 28. 4/5 of my close high school girlfriends got married at 24-26 however I live in Chicago and I am the first one out of my friends group here to be getting married 🙂 My younger sister is getting married this summer and she is 25, she also will be attending 4 other weddings this year who are the same age as her.
Post # 15
sunnierdaysahead2 : Why do you need to feel bad & compare yourself to people around you? Everyone’s life situation is different.