- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2015
I got married at 19. 🙂 husband was 23
I got married at 19. 🙂 husband was 23
It depends on your area and social group. There’s really no norm. I got married at 31. I know any other couples older than us that aren’t engaged. Getting married in your early 30s seem to be the norm in my social group. I don’t think I know anyone that married in their early 20s. Kids in your mid 30s. Youngest to get married that I know of is 25, which seems really young for me.
For my group of friends, most are getting engaged and married now at around age 26-28. We had just three or so outliers who got married young around 23 a year or so out of college, but when it happened it was eye-catching to all of us and in two of the cases they were marrying men at least 5 years older than them. Now we’re all 26 and the engagements and weddings are happening all at once! At least for my group of friends. My FI’s group are all getting married later. He’s a groomsman in two weddings this year and both grooms are 32 (my Fiance is 26). What’s interesting is we’re both from the south but I’m from an urban area and my friends are getting married in their mid and late 20s and my Fiance is from a rural area and his friends are getting married much later in their 30s. Goes against most common wisdom about who gets married young and who waits longer.
sunnierdaysahead2 : I can relate. I’m also from suburban Midwest (though I don’t live there anymore), and feel like I’m a little behind due to having gone to grad school and because of a previously failed relationship (and post recovery time) of 2+ years. I know it kind of sucks to go last (especially when it feels like things work out so easily for others when they didn’t even plan for it), but think of this way – at least you have a date and a wedding right around the corner! Some of us aren’t even engaged yet haha. All the best for your wedding!
Back in my hometown (small southern city – Bible Belt) everyone was married by 20/21 with a kid on the way. Where I live now (big liberal city), it seems like most people are in their 30s.
I’m 31 and getting married and i’m the FIRST of my friends (and his) to be getting married haha.
It really depends where you live and what your group of friends is like, but it seems like most people in this area get married around 30-31 on average, but it’s not at all weird to get married later. One of my sisters’ groups of friends all got married around 30 – 32, and in my other sister’s group of friends most of them are still unmarried and they’re around 35
I live in a big city on the west coast. I got married last year at 28, on the slightly early side among my group of friends. We’re attending a ton of weddings this year where our friends getting married range in age from 29-32. Most of my coworkers were also married in their late 20s or early 30s.
The trend is that people get married at a later age, but there is still variability from that trend in a small sample size. I know of people with high levels of education who married in their early 20s as well as those who waited till the end of or after their postgrad training to marry. There’s no right or wrong. The important thing is finding the right person to make that commitment with.
I’m 30 (DH 32) and the first in my circle of friends to get married. Brother-In-Law & SIL were 32 when they got married. It seems like a lot of people are waiting til their late 20s or early 30s to get married, I think people are focusing on getting into (or trying to!) the property market and making a good income before settling down.
Some of my friends aren’t even interested in getting married or having kids.
I will be 25 when we get married (he will be 27), but NONE of our friends are in serious relationships, let alone on the verge of getting engaged/married. Therefore we will be the first ones to get married in our circles. On the flip side, majority of my friends have children, but we don’t have any currently. We live in Central NC, btw.
We’re both 26 and feel like it’s still pretty young to be getting married. We know 2 other couples in our circle who got married at 24/25 – both uber religious though which is a common theme – but the vast majority of our peers are still single and dating. Quite a few also had kids early but aren’t married. We’re in Auckland, New Zealand.
Fiance and I have been together since highschool though – 9 years. Lived together for 3. Have travelled a lot together too. We’ve been together the longest out of anyone we know and we are getting married now (NEXT WEEK ACTUALLY!) we both did 4 year degrees and have waited to get established careers, pay off loans, have a lot of fun haha and we’ve always wanted to TTC shortly after getting married so we’ve kinda waited until we’re ready for both – marriage and kids. We’re moving to a new city in August so are going to wait to TTC for when we’re settled there and have bought a home etc.
Because we’ve been together for so long and are pretty established and mature for our age, no one has ever said we’re too young. If I’d only just met someone, I’d be getting married closer to 30 I’m sure.
Just do you, Bee. Everyone goes at their own pace 🙂
sunnierdaysahead2 : It really depends on region. I live in NYC, got engaged at 27 and married at 28. I got LOTS of comments about being “so young” to be getting married. We were the first in our friend group to get married. Friends of ours are getting married this summer and they’re both 32. Meanwhile in the town I grew up in (small town midwest) people got married wayyyy younger. I went to a wedding there when I was 25 and everyone was shocked that I was not married, had never been married, and didn’t have kids. Most of the women at the wedding were 23-28 and the majority were divorced with kids or married with kids.
I think this does really come down to when you meet your person as well. Like I said in my PP, I met my husband the end of my freshman year of college and have been together ever since. Yeah we got married at 24/26 BUT we aren’t TTC until closer to 30, we live in downtown Minneapolis, both have advancing careers, still go out with our friends on the weekends, travel and enjoy being young but still with the commitment of being married. I think so many people think that when you get married your “life ends” and nothing is fun anymore but honestly nothing in our lives has changed beyond having a more intimate relationship given that we are married and we are blending finances. For us we felt there was no magic “age” to wait for since we were already so committed to eachother in that way and felt that we were ready to make that promise. FWIW all my girlfriends are literally SO SINGLE (not by choice). So it’s very weird for me to be “married” and no one else to be in that stage yet but what can you do!? You can only live your life for you bee!
If I had never met my husband that young I very highly doubt I would be married right now. My story just started earlier!
I am in a big city in the Midwest, and nearly all my and DH’s friends are married (we are about to turn 27). We married at 23. So mid-20s for marriage, with the hope of having a couple kids by 30 or so is the norm in my circle. We all went to college for bachelor degrees as well. However, I think a lot of it had to do with the fact that we all met our spouses very early (beginning of college) so things have just worked out this way. My only friends who are not married are the few who were single when they graduated college. It all depends on when you meet that special someone!