(Closed) Average Engagement Length Decreasing? (And other averages!)

posted 6 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: How long is your engagement? How old will you be (or hold old were you) for your first wedding?
    My engagement is shorter than the average engagement. (Less than 15 months.) : (141 votes)
    25 %
    My engagement is about average! (About 15 months.) : (50 votes)
    9 %
    My engagement is longer than average. (More than 15 months.) : (102 votes)
    18 %
    I am/was younger than the average bride (or groom). (Younger than 26, or 28 for men.) : (107 votes)
    19 %
    I am/was 26! (Or 28 for guys.) : (38 votes)
    7 %
    I am/was older than the average bride. (Older than 26, or 28 for the dudes.) : (119 votes)
    21 %
    Other: My situation is unique because... : (12 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    7685 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I don’t believe those numbers from theweddingreport.com . They sound like an industry group, so I’m guessing their data is based on their clients, i.e. people with big weddings.

    Hardly anyone I know has had an engagement more than 12 months. Mine was 10 months.

    Post # 4
    Member
    4605 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I’m 22 now, FH is 23. Will be 23 and 24 at the time of the wedding. Our engagement will be 3 years long, give or take a month, but not by my choice. I would have much rather had an engagement longer than six month but shorter than 1.5 years but life didn’t work out that way. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    7685 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @rachelmichelle:  I’d guess the US numbers are even lower than Australia. As a general rule, Christians who don’t believe in living together before marriage tend to have shorter engagements; and I’m guessing that’s more prevalent in the USA than Australia.

    Your link says, “respondents were recruited throughout the year from TheKnot.com and WeddingChannel.com membership”. I contend that they are not representative samples of the general population. People doing a short engagement and simple wedding are less likely to use theknot (or weddingbee for that matter), than are people doing a long engagement and elaborate wedding.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1348 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I’m 20, fh is 23. Our engagement will be 19 months =D

    We both wanted a semi-long engagement, that we’d have plenty of time to plan and it was just luck that our 6 year anniversary wad 19 months away (we’d always wanted to get married on our anniversary).

    Post # 8
    Member
    9114 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    SO and I are both 25. We will be married via civil ceremony in December, our formal wedding will be in June and we’ll both be 26. We’ve been engaged since October, so technically a one month engagement before marriage.

     

    Post # 9
    Member
    1348 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I’m 20, fh is 23. Our engagement will be 19 months =D

    We both wanted a semi-long engagement, that way we’d have plenty of time to plan and it was just luck that our 6 year anniversary was 19 months away and fell on a saturday (we’d always wanted to get married on our anniversary).

    Post # 11
    Member
    8670 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    It could also be said that the length of engagements are increasing due to the fact that it is becoming common for couples to pay for their own weddings or contributing more to the cost of the wedding. In order to do that and with the ever increasing costs of a traditional wedding the couple needs a longer engagement in order to save/afford their dream wedding.

    I am guessing that the huge increase in destination weddings may have also been a contributing factor to the longer engagement statistics.

     But I do agree with you @paula1248:  that source of the research leaves a lot to be desired. It kind of makes me think of the results for research on the cost of the average wedding. It is in the industries best interest that a high $$ is the outcome because there are people that read statistics and think they need to meet them!

    Post # 13
    Member
    9667 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    @j_jaye: I agree, there is an increasing number of couples paying for their own weddings nowadays.

    I am very lucky that my parents want to pay for the wedding, and my Future In-Laws want to pay for half, Fiance and I will want to pay for at least our honeymoon though.

    We are both 22, and will have a 3.5 year engagement, so much much longer than average. But we both want to at least be almost done with university, and live together first. We hope to move out by Christmas next year so will have lived together for at least a year and a half before getting married.

    Post # 14
    Member
    5009 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Brides in the UK seem to be older on average (29 vs 26) and an engagement isn’t usually considered long until it’s over 2 years.

    Post # 15
    Member
    240 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    Engagement: 9 months

    Ages: both 27

    Post # 16
    Member
    316 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    My husband and I were engaged for just over 6 months when we got married, and on our wedding day we had only been together 10 months and a day!!!

    The topic ‘Average Engagement Length Decreasing? (And other averages!)’ is closed to new replies.

    Find Amazing Vendors