Post # 1
My Maid/Matron of Honor is a college friend who doesn’t know most of my family, so she asked me to give her a guest list for my bridal shower and bachelorette party. I feel kind of lame, because I can only come up with around 25 for the shower, (including ALL aunts/grandmas/cousins/female friends etc), and 10-12 for the bachelorette party. Is this around average?
How many did you invite (and how many came) to your shower and bachelorettes?
Post # 3
I came up with about 35 and 12, but I have to revise my shower list because most of those people are not local. (We had thought about doing the shower the same weekend as the wedding like we are with the bachelorette, but it’s going to be too crunched to do that.) Taking non-locals off, I’m left with about 10-15 for the shower so I’m thinking of skipping it, it’s too small and will be silly to have a shower that size. Did you include FI’s family? That might bulk up the list some.
Post # 4
I think that’s pretty average.
My girls invited 30 people to my shower and 25 came. That consisted of pretty much all of the women in both of our families and my closest friends. My bachelorette was much smaller. They invited around 10 and 6 (including me) were there. 1/3 of that guest list had either just given birth or were about to pop so they (understandably) didn’t come.
Post # 5
Yep, that includes FI’s aunts/grandmas! My family is really small (my mom is an only child) so there just aren’t that many people to invite. My BMs want to throw me a shower though, so I doubt we would cancel even if it’s only 10-15 people.
Post # 6
@Faellie: Then don’t worry! I hear you on small families, I’ve got one aunt and one grandma down on the list, and neither is local and won’t make it. My BMs also aren’t local, so even they won’t be present – just my Maid/Matron of Honor.
Post # 7
@Faellie: Does this include all of you family friends as well. The theory is you should probably invite all women who are invited to you wedding to the shower. The bach party, more times than not, the smaller(ish) the better.
Post # 8
I think that’s about average. We have huge families so my shower invite list is massive at 40 but a lot of those are out-of-towners so we’re expecting maybe 30 to come. I’m not having a bachelorette party so I can’t answer that specifically, but I think 10 or less is probably average. I always thought bachs were supposed to be just a night on the town with your best girlfriends/bridesmaids, so you don’t want too many people there.
Post # 9
thanks for the opinions everyone!! I guess most showers I have attended in the past, the bride has had a big family, so they were more like 40+ people. 🙂
Post # 10
I had 60 people at my shower (65 invited)…it was women from my family, DH’s family, and friends.
For my bachelorette party, I invited girl first cousins, friends, and aunts, and the women in DH’s family. So I had about 25 for the bachelorette. Only about 12 came out to the club
Post # 11
WHOA…we invited 15 people and like 9 came. I guess it’s because I’m not really close to extended family and lost touch with most of my friends.
Post # 12
I think it depends on how many showers you have… I had three showers – one thrown by my aunts in one city – about 25 people, one thrown by my BMs in a second city – about 15 people, and one thrown by friends of DH’s family in his hometown – about 40 people (co-ed). If I had tried to get all of those people into one shower, it would’ve been huge! Haha.
I threw a shower for a friend last summer (her only bridal shower, they had a separate couples shower)… she gave me a list of 25 people to invite, and only 12 came, but it was still SO FUN! They were the 12 women who she is closest too (some family, some friends), and we had a blast!
Post # 13
not sure bout bachorlette parties.. but guest list for wedding is just over 200.. guest list for bridal shower is seventy…
Post # 14
I’m having 21 girls n ladies at my bridal shower and bachelorette I thnk I’m having 6 I don’t have much friends but I’m totally ok with that:)
Post # 15
If you ask me the perfect bridal shower size is about 15ppl. Maybe you can have two if you have more. I think they should be fun and intimate.
Post # 16
Wow. This makes me feel so much better! I requested my shower be a surprise but had to work on a gust list of course. Well, my fiance’s family said not to invite anyone except the cousins our age because his aunts won’t get it (cultural thing) and then I have a large chunk of family out of the country so in the end there’s only like 25 people being invited. I’m always going to showers of 60-70+ so I thought I was some kind of loser or something, this makes me feel so much better!!