(Closed) Average time dating before proposal happened?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

I read that 2.5 years of dating is considered by some experts (psychologists, I imagine, though I don’t have the article in front of me right now) before becoming engaged.  I feel that’s about when people expect it, without getting the “wow that was fast” or the “about damn time” reaction. Of course, it’s a highly personal thing and varies widely by different couples, so there isn’t always a reason to compare oneself to these arbitrary standards! For what it’s worth, Fiance and I had been together for 2 years and 9 months when he proposed.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I don’t know the actualy average, but I do know me and my boy have been together 5 and a half years!

Post # 5
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Busy bee

Well we are coming up on our 5 year anniversary and still no ring!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I really think it depends on the couple. For example, we started discussing marriage 6 months into our relationship, and were engaged after we had been dating a total of 1 year and 2 months.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We were together exactly (well, not to the day) 2.5 years when he proposed. It was a total surprise!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

I don’t think there is an average amount of time – I think it definitely differs from couple to couple.  We got engaged at about 3.5 years together, and we’ll get married a little more than 5 years together – but we waited because we started dating when I was 19 and he was 21 and ours lives were still so uncertain – now was just the right time for us! But we know people who started dating 2 years after us and are getting married the day before – so, no right answer!

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I think it depends on the couple. I also think it depends on the age of the couple. I’m an ‘older’ bride and at 29, there is no way I’d be waiting around 5 years without wedding bells! We were together 10 months when we got engaged~that was perfect for us! We had both dated A LOT and knew what we wanted and didn’t want…

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We were 2 1/2 years (my FH claims it would have been earlier, but he was still in school when we met – he proposed about 6 months after finishing school)

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

he proposed on our 10 year anniversary. But we are high school sweethearts so i know thats not really “average”. Hmm, i’d say from my friends experiences, 3-4 years. However, no rhyme or reason to these things 🙂

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

We were together for five and a half years.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We dated 2 years 8 months before he proposed.  I wasn’t desperate to get engaged though, so I wasn’t itching for a ring. 

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

That is a very good question! And I won’t say ‘it depends’ b/c I know that’s not the answer you are probably looking for. Maybe you can add a poll? My guess would be 2.5-3 years is the average amount of time. Fiance and I dated 1.5 years before gettting engaged.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I wish I could say Im engaged but Im not… 🙁

Boyfriend or Best Friend and I are coming up on our 5 yr anniversary in April

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I remember a while ago that they had a similar thread like this that had a lot of responses. At the time, I tallied the responses and came up with this conclusion:

Alot people were in engaged by the 2 year mark. The next highest responses came from those that didn’t get engaged until at least the 5 year mark.

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